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    Anonymous
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    Dear Sun stuck behind a grey cloud:

    If you want, and only if you want to: write a synopsis of your long post above. If you do, I will read it and reply to your way shorter second post (the synopsis). If I find a reason to read the whole story (your original post), I will.

    Otherwise, I hope other members read and reply to you.

    anita

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    Anonymous
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    Hi. I’m a long writer too haha so I read it all. To answer your questions:

    1. I’m don’t know, but what I’m confident of is that the answer is inside of you. And if you feel like something is missing, and you often have a weird feeling inside of you, then that’s definitely a big sign that you should break up, and as soon as possible. It sounds like you’re in a toxic situation that will likely get worse and worse. That’s the thing with people. They’re not exactly mean-spirited people, and you have a lot of good times together, but you also have times where you’ll often argue, or you get mixed messages, etc. That’s how toxic relationships typically are, and that’s why many people don’t want to leave the relationship just in case there’s a misunderstanding, or in hopes that things will work out in the future. If you have any big concerns within you, then I would address that asap. If it seems like all he’ll do is get angry every time you express yourself, then I strongly urge to consider breaking up with him.

    2. Referring to #1, please please don’t ignore the feeling if you feel like something is wrong. To find out why you keep getting the feeling like something is wrong, then try replaying scenarios between you and Albert where he gets mad at you, and answer the questions: Why do you think this happened? How could it have been better? What was happening when this went on? What do you think is going on from his side? Do you think he’s misunderstanding you? Or does he have possessive traits? To me, it definitely does seem like he’s possessive. He gets mad whenever you hang out with anybody, but he doesn’t seem to care about you getting mixed messages from him flirting with Cindy.

    3. I think you should address things as they are. He needs to be able to have a conversation without yelling or getting angry with you. In my view, I would have already broken up with him to be honest. Relationships aren’t supposed to be confusing. It also sounds like he wants to “have his cake and eat it too” if you know what I mean. He wants to still have you as his girlfriend while taking out his anger on you whenever he feels like it. And trust me I know it’s difficult, especially when you think of the positive things about someone. But that’s how the classic toxic relationship is. Nobody would date someone that’s just a rude jerk from the top. They’re always that friendly and sweet person. That’s why people find it so difficult to leave while they know that they’re stressing and struggling a lot by staying in the relationship. Oh, I also would watch videos and research about toxic relationships. See if you might be in one, and hear other people’s stories of their relationship. Then you can decide if you’re being sucked into one or if you think things can work out.

    That’s all!

    #350862

    thank you for that. i have addressed it multiple times, believe me haha, and thank you for taking the time to read whole thing haha. but something just happened that has made it worse. We were all hanging out for 420, when they say Cindy is on the way. Next thing i notice is her car pulling up and i realize Albert is know where to be seen. So i decide to go outside to get my water. I go outside to the truck, and notice someone on the other side, next thing i see is Albert running behind the other car and coming up the yard, he then meets eyes with me. now the look on his face, ive seen before. He looked nervous, and i was a bit confused why, and then comes Cindy but she walks a different way up the driveway, they both quickly head for the door while she tells me a quick hi, and just as i’m walking inside, Albert pulls me back outside and starts giving me an explanation on why they were out there and what they were doing. I didn’t ask for all of this information, but he just felt the need to give it to me. I actually started to feel upset in my chest, bc i really felt that i had just walked into something. I also thought it was funny that he just so happened to be outside the same time she was pulling up. Idk, it was very weird and i have no idea if i should believe him or not. I also read some of their messages during when the whole ” she thought i wanted to kill her thing” and she was texting Albert and saying she doesn’t think she wants to come over anymore because she doesn’t want to be a problem, and Albert replied, ” We love having you around, I love having you around”. I am the only one that thinks that was kind of weird, that he just had to make it known to Cindy that not just we, but HE loves having her around. I feel sad and confused, i dont know what to believe.

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