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  • December 16, 2019 at 6:34 am #327921
    Anonymous
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    Dear Mackenzie:

    Your parents are legally correct, regarding most rules, “their house = their rules”. Keeping the dog in the computer room and not in the kitchen is not illegal, and so is keeping the indoor temperature at 66 degrees. All you can do, for as long as you can’t offer your dog a better home, your own, let’s say, is advocate for her, which is what you’ve been doing with partial success.

    I am sure your dog has a blanket available where she sleeps, in the computer room, a cozy arrangement where she can burrow into a cylindrical, padded little home that will keep her warm in the computer room?

    A friend of yours told you that you caring for others is not a weakness but a strength. Did he or she explain what he meant, that is, how is you caring for others making you strong? And what did he mean by “You come off as paranoid“?

    anita

     

    December 16, 2019 at 7:45 am #327907
    William Luiz Dos Santos
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    Well as someone that always try to be kind and care about people lot, I undesrstand your situation a bit. Caring or being kind is not a weakness, but reality is that your kindness won’t always be responded with kindness, and you will get hurt a lot by people because of it, but that doesn’t make it a weakness, you just have to understand that people will act according to their own beliefs and experiences, and that you can only control your own actions, but please if I must say, don’t stop being kind and caring, to do that is a strenght, at least for me.

    I think talking with your parents about your worries and emotions is the right thing to do, but even if it doesn’t go the way you want, always remember you can only control your own actions, and your actions is the only thing you should fell responsible for, sometimes you will still fell bad for other people actions, but you should try to always keep that on your mind.

    I hope I could be of help, have a nice day.

    December 16, 2019 at 9:20 am #327963
    Inky
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    Hi Mackenzie,

    Your dog is literally on his last legs.

    Since your parents get defensive, just quietly do what needs to be doing. When they are asleep put the dog in the kitchen. Crank that thermostat up to a blistering 68 degrees. Your mom will yell about the kitchen. Your dad will yell about the money flying out the window.

    The next night get a dog bed for the computer room but re-crank that thermostat back up. Maybe just to a tropical 67.

    Just do things for the dog without saying a word and leave your parents out of it.

    Then guess what you’ll be back in school. Around Junior year expect to get a tearful phone call about your dog and how wonderful you were to him.

    Keep in mind that next year’s wonderful is today’s annoying.

    Best,

    Inky

     

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