Dear Anonymous:

I am not a professional evil detector (if there is such a thing) but I detected no evil in what you shared:

“I met a girl in office”- no evil. “We started talking and we became friends”- no evil. “I started liking her… I was attracted to her”- we are never evil because we feel this or that, we don’t choose our feelings.

“I’m in a long distance relationship.. no signs to getting to be together.. not met in a year almost”- not having been together for a year and not having plans to get together..? That doesn’t read like a relationship at all.

Reads to me that what happened is that you pursued a co-worker for a love relationship, a co worker in a small office of five employees. You presented yourself to her as a friend but pursued her like a man interested in being her boyfriend. This is not evil, it is unwise, there is a difference.

“last year I was feeling alone, almost depressed”- when we feel very lonely and depressed, we do get needy and clingy and quite desperate and we don’t do our best thinking. Our sensibility gets blocked by strong emotions.

“Is it just human to be this way?” Yes, it is.

“Or I’m a manipulative evil person?”- no, not from what you shared, not at all.

“What Priya said was the truth?”- she was in a tough situation, working in a small office with four other people, one of whom pursued her as a potential girlfriend, a difficult situation for her.

So you have a few more days in this job. Do you have another job after this one and I am guessing you learned to not pursue a woman in the workplace, especially in the same office?

anita