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September 9, 2019 at 10:50 am #311045
Valora
ParticipantHi Felix!
I have been in this situation before, not yours but the girl’s, where I have chatted with someone daily, they developed feelings that I did not reciprocate (and still don’t). Believe her when she tells you she doesn’t have those feelings for you. They aren’t likely to develop just from continuing to talk, especially when you’ve already been talking daily. When she is making sure you know that you two are only friends, that means that she is firm on her stance that she only likes you as a friend and that that isn’t’ going to change. She is eventually going to get close to someone else, whether you are talking to her or not, so that is something you will have to accept, too. Eventually she will find someone she wants to date and there really isn’t anything you can do to change that.
So, with that said, it’s good that you two have stopped talking. It’s only been two weeks so it’s normal that you still miss her. That will decrease over time if you continue to not talk with her. I would highly suggest you unfollow her on all social media so that she isn’t showing up in your feeds. Do not go to her pages, don’t check on her, don’t message her. You’re going to feel a strong urge to do all of those things, but resist it because it’s only going to keep you from moving on. It’s going to take time to break the habit of talking with her so often, so you have to give yourself enough time for that to happen.
Do you know why you feel you need a girlfriend so badly, to the point that you don’t think you can be motivated enough to continue a business without one? Quite frankly, motivation and business ownership ATTRACTS girls because motivated people and leaders are attractive, so doing that can only help you in that case.
September 9, 2019 at 11:59 am #311051Rabin
ParticipantHey Felix
I would suggest you do mindfull meditation and focus on your goals in life. If someone doesn’t want you, you have to respect that and move on, I know it’s not easy but this situation will make you a stronger man. There are alot of girls out there, if you involve yourself in hobbies that you like with like minded people you will find someone you like and then you can talk to that person and see where it goes. Trust me your relationship with this girl will only hurt you more. I’ve been in a similar situation but I found someone who appreciates me, you just have to talk go and talk to other women, eventually you will find someone who loves you the same way you love her. Don’t be afraid of being alone, that time just gives you an opportunity to be your best version if you spend it on self- development.
I hope this helps
Peace
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