Dear Mae:

“I was just thinking that enough time maybe hasn’t passed, and I’m being impatient maybe he’ll come around? He seemed motivated enough to tell me he liked me, and enjoyed spending time with me”-

– it is too easy to say the following: I like you. I enjoy spending time with you. It takes only a few seconds, maybe ten seconds. It doesn’t burn more than a calorie or two to say that, maybe way less than a single calorie. It is just too easy. And sure he likes you, but you want him to like you more than.. he likes let’s say a banana which he is okay having once a week or so.

Regarding waiting for him to come around, as in waiting for him to develop a desire  to be with you, as in it being a high priority for him- no use in waiting for that to happen over time. He met you years ago, chose to ghost you for two years- he doesn’t have a desire  to be with you as in a high priority.

Distinguish between a man’s desire to hook up and a man’s desire to spend time with you because he wants to know more and more about how you think and feel and what you want in life, and so forth, a man who enjoys you outside sex and without sex.

anita

Dear Mae:

“Prioritize my own happiness before waiting for someone” to prioritize you- excellent: you placing yourself in high priority in your own life. When you do that you accept people who respect and value you into your life and reject those who don’t.

anita