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  • April 19, 2019 at 12:19 pm #289799
    Anonymous
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    Dear Hannah:

    I suppose you did meet him in person, correct? If so, can you describe how often you met him in person and how was the relationship between the two  of you when physically in the same place together?

    anita

    April 19, 2019 at 1:19 pm #289809
    apple-slice
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    We haven’t met yet but we’re going to meet in a week or so. He’s coming over to where I live.

    April 19, 2019 at 1:39 pm #289817
    Anonymous
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    Dear apple-slice:

    And the mutual friend who introduced you to him, his girlfriend at the time, later to break up and get back together again, later to cheat on him, was she also his long distance girlfriend as well as your long distance friend?

    anita

    April 19, 2019 at 2:21 pm #289839
    apple-slice
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    Yes she was his long distance girlfriend but not my long distance friend.

    April 19, 2019 at 4:15 pm #289859
    Anonymous
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    Dear apple-sauce:

    I need to be away from the computer but will return to your thread when I am back in about 14 hours from now. Feel free to add any information that may be relevant. I will read and reply to  you when I am back.

    anita

    April 19, 2019 at 4:18 pm #289863
    Mark
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    apple-slice,

    So this relationship of 4 months has been one of phone calls and/or texts and/or Facetime/Skype?  You have never met him at all and this visit in a week will be the first time you have actually see each other face-to-face?

    When you said you two have not been affectionate lately, what does that affection look like?  Is in the form of words that convey fondness, warmth, tenderness and care?

    My take all these feelings of  something being missing may all go away when you actually see him.  Be patient and see what happens.

    Mark

    April 20, 2019 at 12:44 am #289891
    apple-slice
    Participant
    1. Yes we skype and have phone calls as often as we can. Exactly, the affection we share is of loving and caring words. I think you’re right it might all go away once we meet and i can’t wait for that to happen. I think the whole root of the problem is that we havent had much time lately and I overthink things a lot so i might jump to conclusions quickly.
    April 20, 2019 at 7:02 am #289907
    Anonymous
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    Dear apple-slice:

    You had a female friend who was an online girlfriend of this guy. Later, you became an online girlfriend of this guy. You will be meeting him soon in-person for the first time.

    I suggest that you view that day when you meet him in person for the first time as the first day of your relationship with him. It will be the first day that you will be able to feel his touch, his hand holding yours. It will be the first day that you will be able to smell him as he hugs you, if he does. Talk with him about anything and everything, in person. See how those things feel, these new dimensions of knowing a person, this new beginning.

    Let go of his online history with your former friend and with you, see it as a closed chapter and turn to the new.

    anita

     

    April 20, 2019 at 10:36 am #289957
    apple-slice
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    Wow you’re absolutely right. Thank you for this.

    April 20, 2019 at 10:40 am #289961
    Anonymous
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    You are welcome, apple-slice. Post again if you need to and I will reply.

    anita

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