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    Inky
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    Hi Logan,

    Well, his past ghosting speaks for itself. If he ghosts again, you won’t be surprised.

    But honestly? His mother is on life support. He is under a phenomenal amount of emotional stress right now, even if he doesn’t know it and even if he were the most well adjusted person in the world.

    I faded away from my friends when my father was dying. Some took it personally. Because I didn’t let them in. Some because of the guilt they felt when they realized that they didn’t even know my father was dying, highlighting that they were crappy friends to begin with because they never reached out during that time (not your situation!).

    What I would do is leave him alone and let him reach out. Send an occasional text so he knows he’s not forgotten.

    Best,

    Inky

    #276899
    Anonymous
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    Dear Logan:

    He hasn’t been and is still not ready for a relationship, reads to me, because of a troubled family life, his mother being an alcoholic for one, that is a very difficult situation for a child. He probably loves her and is angry at her at the same time. He may be feeling (unjustified) guilt for feeling angry at her, especially since she is on life support. I am guessing he is tortured by his conflicting feelings and fear.

    He probably projects his anger at you, this is what people most often do. He may feel too guilty to be aware that he is angry at his mother, so it comes up when he  interacts with you.

    Reads to me that he needs more than space, that he needs to no longer live in his home of origin, get some quality psychotherapy, be employed and support himself.

    At best you can be a supportive friend to him, if he manages to not project his anger at you. But a relationship is not doable anytime soon with him, reads to me.

    anita

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