Sorry, I meant to add this too. I am not a tic for tax person but with her I find myself being one. Something reminds me of her and I refuse to reach out. If she reaches out which she has like never I won’t respond for days… this is not like me at all!

Hi Mark,

Thank you for responding. Looks like I had some typos or confusion, oops!

1) I was upset with Cassie for going behind my back and inviting her boyfriend Matt to my house when I said it was all girls staying there. It was a girls night. I asked her multiple times if she wanted to cancel and that she could, but that Matt couldn’t stay there with all these girls who were standing up in my wedding who didn’t know him. I lived in a 800 square foot apartment in the middle of the city. She invited him anyways and he invited other friends.

2) I was frustrated that Cassie after that situation above sat across from me at our rehearsal dinner saying how awkward it was to give a speech and how she wasn’t giving a speech.

3) Matt was one of my best friends and her and Matt have said stuff about my husband and I. Matt is also my husbands best friend. They both do not talk to us now.

4) Cassie is my childhood best friend and Matt is my husbands. We do many group activities together with Matt and my husbands friend group. They do not reach out to us since they started dating which is strange, two best friends dating one another. And it has shifted my husbands friends group because when Cassie and Matt are there they are not fun and can be very rude. They also hang out with this girl who we don’t get along with and together they are not fun. That is how they have shifted the group. We find ourselves not wanting to go to events because if they are there it’s not fun and awkward because everyone thinks we are all best friends but secretly we don’t talk at all anymore.

5) I’m sure over 5 years I have gossiped about the friends to her, we were in separate groups and it is not right to gossip. But everything I told her was just my  truth about situations. I’m not sure if bringing that up would surface more stuff? She might not even remember anything. I just know this one night I complained about Matt years before they knew one another and I told Matt the same thing I told her.

6) I am trying to move on but it’s hard because she is now always attached to my husbands friends group.

Does that clear up the story? Sorry was typing so fast.

Dear Anita,

Thank you, of course.

Matt is my husbands best friend. He has five best guy friends. Matt and I always got along very well. Never any romantic feelings or anything close to that. He was the only single one in the group and so I would try and set him up with people. Because he was the only single one he also would travel to visit us because he moved back home and we live in a large city so he would spend a few weekends with us. He went thru a few girls that were not the best and he would talk to my husband and I about them so that’s how I was able to understand his type which is why I thought Cassie was perfect.  He would bring these girls to weekend visits. It was an innocent game. That’s why it’s so odd that when he clicked with my best friend it got so sour. Now Matt and my friend Cassie no longer speak to us or seek out time to spend together. They are rude to us when we do see them and have become friends with people that we all didn’t previously like.