
“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.” ~Melody Beattie
A few years ago I had an ulcer and I would get dizzy after almost every meal. There was a point when I was afraid to eat. I lost twenty pounds when I didn’t need to lose weight.
I wasn’t sleeping well.
I was a complete wreck inside.
It took me two and half years to get my stomach back on track. I tried one thing at a time until I found what worked well for me. I can no longer drink coffee or eat tomatoes or other acidic foods. And man, did I did love a good cup of coffee to help get my morning going.
Still, I’m actually grateful for my ulcer. It was one of the best illnesses to ever happen to me because it helped me become a healthier person.
I was only able to overcome it because of my gratitude journal. Each day, I thanked the foods that didn’t cause me to feel dizzy. As I journaled more and more about these foods, I began to see patterns, which helped me ascertain which foods to eliminate.
I put my energy into appreciating the foods that helped me feel good instead of complaining about the foods that made me feel sick to my stomach. And that helped me both heal and keep a positive attitude.
This is why I suggest everyone keeps a gratitude journal. It helps you see things that you missed before. It encourages you to focus your attention on things that are making your life better.
The best part is gratitude not only helps you live longer because it helps reduce stress, it also helps you build stronger relationships because you are more likely to share your appreciation with others. And when you regularly practice gratitude, you’re generally more empathetic and less prone to envy—great for your mental health and your relationships.
The Power of Gratitude Journaling
It took me some time to turn gratitude journaling into a daily habit. When I first started, I would miss days at a time. It took almost a year to get a consistent habit going. Once I made gratitude a regular practice, it helped keep me sane since I was focusing on the things I had in life instead of wanting a situation to be different. This was a huge mindset shift for me.
As I got busier I started getting away from my journal again. Then, as my father was passing, I leaned back into it, but I wanted to go a little deeper. I started writing stories in my gratitude journal, which helped me uncover details I hadn’t really processed before.
I noticed him getting grumpier as he got older. My journal helped me see that I didn’t want myself to fall into the same bad habits. And I didn’t have to. I had a path to build a better attitude.
I quickly noticed my new attitude changed how people responded to me. For example, coworkers started gravitating toward me because I was letting them know that I appreciated them. Who knew that a little appreciation would help you build friendships?
I also noticed that the migraines that used to start at the base of my neck weren’t as intense. Gratitude was not only improving my attitude and my relationships, but also my health.
I felt like I’d stumbled upon a magic formula for life. I know that people have been talking about gratitude for thousands of years, but it felt so refreshing to me.
I did some research on gratitude and found some amazing studies.
In one book, Why We Do What We Do, researcher Edward Deci explains that when someone has six positive interactions to one negative, they are 31% more productive.
When you have positive thoughts and interactions, it’s easier to focus on what matters. That may be spending time with your family, traveling, or writing. Positive interactions free you up to have the energy to do what matters to you.
Start Small
The intense focus of finding some small bit of gratitude in every situation really changed me.
When I was stuck in traffic, I thought about how I could appreciate the situation and write about it. When I was stuck in another meeting, I thought about how lucky I was to be in the situation and asked myself, “What is one important lesson that I can take away from this meeting?”
Sometimes the lesson was to breathe into my belly more. Other times it was learning from a really smart coworker who handled the meeting very well, kept us all on track, and helped us get a lot accomplished.
Because I started small, I planted seeds to be able to go deeper into gratitude.
If you too would like to create more positive feelings and interactions, I highly recommend starting a gratitude journal. And it can actually be really simple.
Each day this upcoming month, just write a few things you are grateful for and why, for example:
- I’m grateful for my coworker because she is always willing to listen and help.
- I’m grateful for my ability to dance in my car seat when I’m stuck at a traffic light, because it allows me to release my stress.
- I’m grateful for my pets because they make me feel loved and needed.
The key component here is your why. This is important because it helps you actually feel grateful, as opposed to just listing things you think you should appreciate. Soon you’ll likely start to feel a lot better about your work, your relationships, and even yourself. And before you know it, you’ll probably notice an improvement in your attitude—and major changes in your life.
About Karl Staib
Karl Staib is the author of Bring Gratitude and the creator of the free 30-Day Bring Gratitude Challenge. Karl’s goal is to create an amazing community so can all help each other learn from our mistakes and build a life we love. Join from January 1st to 30th to help strengthen your mindset through the beginning of the year.











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I consider myself a grateful person, but there are times when I let “first world problems” obstruct my views. This was a wonderful article and I have now joined the “30 day bring gratitude challenge”. I think actually writing down daily gratitude is an insightful exercise, also. Now I can’t make up the excuse for “being to busy” for journaling. I used to journal regularly when I was in high school and college. Thank you, Mr. Staib, for sharing this article.
I just took a course by Srikumar Rao on Mindvalley, and he talks about how gratitude is more than a cerebral recollection, which is so true. It’s an immersion of self into gratefulness. I love the way you used it or food. I’m going out this weekend to get a new gratitude journal for the new year. Can’t wait.
I’m trying to get into this habit myself. I like to do it as a type of gratitude art meditation where I doodle words and images as I think about what I’m grateful for, similar to the prayer method in Sybil MacBeth’s book Praying in Color.
Thanks for sharing this! I hadn’t been suffering from a physical illness, but rather a mental blockage in which I knew I have so many blessings but refused to see it when I decided to embark upon my own 30 days of gratitude challenge which I had created for myself. For 30 days in a row, day with had to start with 10 things that I was grateful for, increasing by an extra three things to be grateful for per day, bringing day 30 to a total of 100 things that I was grateful for. Within a week of it, my father had unexpectedly passed away. I kept up with it for a few days before I waved the white flag to my ego and gave up on this. It only lasted shortly because that was when I realized that it’s in the face of adversity do we truly have to find the blessings best woes upon us, even if we’re not receptive to it. I wound up successfully completing the challenge the second time around. Needless to say, my relationships with everyone has transformed dramatically because of it. Again, thanks for the inspiration to be more authentic to who we really are and keep up the great writing!
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