Dear Pinky3589:

You shared that you have a relationship with a man, started as “on and off for a few years”, now six years total. You found out recently that his father disapproves of you as a wife for his son and that your boyfriend knew of his father’s disapproval all along but didn’t tell you about it. At one point you received a letter at your  home,  it was his father who wrote it, pretending  to be a woman who dated your boyfriend. In that letter, his father wrote that you and  his son have been “friends with benefits”. You told your boyfriend about the letter, he said he didn’t know anything about it.  A few days later you received a second letter stating that the first one was written as “a drunken dare”. You believe his father had access to his son’s emails and text messages and has read your communication with his son/your boyfriend. You confronted the father and the father blocked you as a response.  The son/your boyfriend, on the other hand, told you that his father apologized for your suffering, but claimed to have nothing  to do with those two letters. Did I understand correctly?

Another question: are you still in a relationship with your boyfriend and if so, what is the status of the relationship, are you pursuing marriage with him and what is his input regarding marriage with you?

anita