Hi so not sure if this is the right place to post this but here it goes. This is a very extreme situation I’m in and I’m very conflicted in how to deal with it.

My bf of 6 years ( on and off for a few  years st first but at a point of just want to settle and plan to get married) found out he had spoken to other women he says he doesn’t know/ had issues with a difference in cultures and strong pressures from his parents (which he never told me at the time). So they had been putting off properly meeting me for ages. I tried my best to keep patient. Anyway all the above came out, he basically lied and tried to cover up the truth instead of just saying it all out from day one when I just had an earnest and frank conversation with him. I did actually try to see if I can figure it out tbh. Anyway during this I recieved a hand written letting to my home- 4 A4 pages from a “girl” pretending to have dated him saying how he cheated on her a lot, saying how he used to say we were “friends with benefits” and somebody unusual things and including things about my background that was true. Needless to say it was very traumatic- it broke my heart and me as a person. It was all too much to handle. He denied any of it said he has no clue where it’s come from. I then recieved another letter two days later- typed being like sorry it was a drunken dare.

With everything that had happened I basically have developed anxiety and depression. The anxiety is due to a lot but one thing that stemmed it was that letter and the shock of it and getting another it just topped everything else off. As I didn’t know who sent it- it became an issue where I would avoid coming home and keep checking if I had another and then I used to get scared someone would turn up at my home.

Now I’ve recently found out that it’s his dad that wrote that letter….. haven’t had a full explaination from him just wants been told to me. Now this guys dad works as a consultant psychiatrist which is terrible, he also got the information from his sons emails- I had sent him some emails like just baring how I felt. My (now ex) had also been abit horrible to me so that was written in too.  He also apprently read text messages from my bf at the times phone. He had paraphrased parts of how this “girl” felt to make it real. Now it’s been horrendous to deal with. He hasn’t said sorry to me- apprently saying it to his son (for obvious reasons). I actually sent him a message to say what have I done to u and explain urself ur a grown man and a doctor- he BLOCKED me. He’s apprently said he’s sorry to me through other my ex.

Now I’m at a a point where I just want to go and confront him and say what are u playing at. But with a person there to support me. So that’s my instinct to do. But I’m very aware my emotions are everywhere and usually I can reign in acute emotions and be more logical but this is just a messed up situation.

So im just asking around for advice. As bizzare as this is how would you approach it?