Dear Behoma:

You express yourself very well, very  articulate,  insightful, sensible, you described  him and the situation over time so well

He has a strong  emotional desire for you, he  looks up to  you as The Best. Sometimes he gets hurt that  you don’t  love  him back, and  then he  gets angry and then he is back to seeing you up there,  on a pedestal.

You tried to lead him to  adjust to you being  just a friend by telling him about your crushes, that didn’t work so far, after those shares on your part he went  back to seeing you on a pedestal. Seeing you up there, Perfect, The Best thing ever is in his “romantic doe  eyes and his in-love voice”.

Before thinking about the  more difficult possible solutions  to the situation I wonder if there could be a possible simple  solution. If you are a woman who cares for her looks, practices perfect table manners, proper-like  behavior, then if you change that, if  he sees  you, to his surprise, ex., displaying terrible table manners, in his  book of manners, it may poke a much needed hole  in the way he sees you up there on that pedestal.

What do you think?

anita