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  • November 15, 2018 at 5:33 am #236947
    Inky
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    Hi crazy,

    If you’re going to break up with her, do it NOW, or well after Valentine’s Day. Otherwise you’ll be “That Guy” that broke up with her during the holidays! Why give her one more thing to lament about? There is no perfect time, but some times are better than others. If you’re too chicken to do it NOW, then this time will put the pressure off you for a time.

    Also, break up with her on a Friday or during a long weekend. (NOT during a vacation). Then her work won’t suffer as much. She’ll have the weekend to cry and vent to her friends.

    Tell her parents or a best friend who can keep a secret to casually stop by her house at a certain time (right after you break up with her) so she won’t be alone. Also, you’ll want that person to take her out to dinner or invite her to crash at their house and be taken care of that weekend.

    After you’ve done the dirty deed, DON’T contact her for a year, even if she tries to contact you. It will only prolong her suffering.

    Best,

    Inky

    • This reply was modified 6 years, 7 months ago by Inky.
    November 15, 2018 at 10:53 am #237011
    Anonymous
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    Dear crazy:

    It is not a good way to live, being held hostage by fear, not a good way to live… to marry a woman you don’t love and worse,  have children with a woman who may turn against her own  (and your) children when she gets depressed again… threatening suicide in front of her children, oh how destructive that would be to those young children.

    Better for you (and for the children I hope you don’t want to have with her) that you do break up with her. I hope that the progress she made,  with your help, being currently employed is one such progress, will help her endure the breakup and continue her progress.

    Plan how to break up with her, gently,  assertively, plan how to respond if she makes threats, again, as a result  of the breakup, then follow your plan.  You can plan it right here  and  I will give you my input on your plan.

    anita

    November 16, 2018 at 8:57 am #237997
    crazy
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    Hi Inky

    Thank you very much for your input. She doesn’t has much friends, as from what I see are those hi-bye friends. You’re suggesting the correct way to breakup; friday, and telling her parents to take care of her. hmm … i’ll man up and break up with her. Once again, thanks.

    Hello anita,

    I understand that “it is not a good way to live, being held hostage by fear”, believing that you had experience this before. Thanks for the suggestion. It seemed like there is no other way but to face the truth that, breaking up is going to be hurt.. deeply. Once again thank you anita for willingly to give your input on my breakup. I’ll keep this thread updated as if I am stuck.. I seldom online but I am the silent reader of this forum.

     

    November 16, 2018 at 10:01 am #238009
    Anonymous
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    Dear crazy:

    You are welcome. Yes, better make a better life for yourself, one  where you are not held hostage by fear. Anytime you post again, I will be  glad to respond, as long as you would like that.

    anita

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