Dear Anita,

After I read this post, I did a small exercise with my thoughts. I asked myself what do I imagine about. When I imagine, I think of past situations and how future situations will pan out. Invariably the thoughts say that it will be just as the past has been. I made a column where I put my thoughts on the past in the 1st, thoughts on the future in the 2nd and the present in the 3rd.

I must say I couldn’t figure out what to do with the column in the present. It was blank; there were no thoughts in the present. None of the situations I was thinking of was a reality in the present. This exercise gave me a sense of freedom and a renewed interest in living the present moment to the full.

A life well lived in the present, mindfully, paves a way for a well cared for future.

Thank you for this stimulation.

Dear Anita,

How very kind and sweet of you to write in this manner.

With just a few messages and no direct conversations, you have determined the kind of person that I would like to become  – gracious and caring. Hope to be like that consistently in all aspects of my life.

Thank you.

Hey Anita!

Totally get you. Rarely, we are taught to forgive ourselves and that often results in self-esteem issues later on in life.

Yes, we do imagine more than necessary at times but I don’t what I would do without imagining.  It has made me have faith in a toxic person and see the light in bitter circumstances. I know it doesn’t change the reality but for a while at least, we feel at peace.

We wouldn’t know harmony without tough times. Maybe it is meant to exist this way. Its bleak, but maybe we all fated to fall over and get back up again. Sometimes fragility of a happy moment is what makes it special.

Yeah I agree, Anita. Its pretty awesome to check out your thoughtful threads as well! 🙂

I like your post Anita . I think I spend too much time imagining the future and overthinking the present . One thing sticks out and I need to be gentler on myself.

Thanks anita,

Actually whatever you are feeling and you are facing these days I already faced and i started finding solutions! But I had failed, I learn first to understand the problem which create disturbance to all us mind…

So exactly I want to know the problem, I correctly understood that you are facing pain but what type.,I mean from yours family side and anything else…

Plz explain me more about it..

And the solution first find the exact problem and try to conclude it !! Then you can find a permanent solution…

Ye sb mind ko samjane and it’s all about emotional intelligence!!!!

Kavita ?

Hi Anita,

Cool post. I’m a visual artist, and I feel like that makes me different in a way that causes judgement from a lot of people. I am myself, and to a lot of people that’s really offensive/off-putting or just I guess not ok for them. I think that’s one of the main reasons I’ve struggled so much to find a job and get work – people usually tell me they can’t “wrap my head around me” or want me to just “go be an artist.” That’s pretty tough to hear when I’m struggling to get food on the table or a roof over my head. I think it’s sad that so many artists have been forced to live in poverty or rely on family throughout history, yet society has still failed to support artists – there’s probably a lot of people that would argue with me on that one, but artists probably wouldn’t 🙂

I’ve decided to start my own business, it’s the one way I think I might have a chance of not being bullied to poverty by people who don’t ‘get it,’ and actually not be poor. I mean, even when I hustle 1000% harder, the results in the 9-5 world just aren’t there for me. I’ve had enough.

I wanted to write to you Anita, because I think you do ‘get it.’ And now that I’ve started my business I’ve noticed that there are still some issues or blocks I’m facing to actually get the business up and running! I’ve wondered in the past if my art teacher telling me my plans to be an artist after college graduation really did mess me up inside – he said that I was “offensive” – oh well. It didn’t work out for me… My dream is to be a film director – but after trying for several years, I don’t really see how it’s going to happen, and I’ve faced so much adversity in my efforts and they didn’t pan out. So… what I’m wondering is do I have an internal block to making a living wage? Every time I’ve had a job around the time when I get to a place where I might be financially stable I quit, or get fired… My parents are narcisstic, and I live at home currently, I’m not sure if they play a role but they do doubt me or just see my abilities are like “goals” and not actually capabilities. I guess I’m just wondering because now that I’m doing my business I’m facing another block that’s in the way of me finally making an income with it… I’m not sure if it’ll work out, or if I’m sabotaging myself. If I did have an internal block to making a living wage – would that be something I can overcome? How would I do it? I mean… it would make sense because I’ve never been able to be financially stable, and when I get close I usually do get sabotaged or self sabotage with the negative thoughts. Do you think I’m on the right track?