Tebriz,

Excuse me for saying so, but I think the adult Tabriz is infiltrating on the girl Tebriz. As we grow even more into older women, your body, age, hormones, etc. is preparing for you to take on raising a family of your own. Of course, this has nothing to do with our actual “plan”, it’s more the Universal Human Lifecycle thing. The DNA of hundreds of women who were about your age when they married their life partner, is taking over.

YES you deep down care about what certain guys think. NO you don’t want him to think of you as a one-night stand. After all, if you DO start a family someday, having a special guy have a good opinion of you is the foundation of where to start.

I think it’s natural.

Just remember to have fun despite it all.

Best,

Inky

• This reply was modified 6 years, 7 months ago by Inky.

Dear Tebriz:

From having re-read your April thread and this one, it is clear to me that you are “an easy going girl who wants to have fun” for as long as you stay away from emotional attachment, for as long as you remain unattached. You shared April that you have suffered from anxiety, panic attacks and depression.

These things, anxiety, panic attacks (fear) and depression are not fun, of course. Emotional attachment/involvement with a man brings this very unpleasant experience to you, so you keep it light and fleeting.

Your “real character”, I am thinking, is about two conflicting motivations: to love and be loved in return, and fearing it.

Would you like to share about the anxiety and depression you felt early on in life, before you started dating?

anita