Dear Clerance:

You wrote that he “was very moody”, if you mean that he was very moody throughout the relationship, that would mean that even if he was or is interested in a relationship with him when he unblocked you etc., he may soon change his mind. What do you think?

anita

Dear Clerance,

Seems to be a lot of confusion in his mind; being the dumper, then deciding to be friends (assuming he is the one who wanted to remain friends since you mentioned feeling weird), then blocking for no obvious reasons and without offering you any reason and then resuming contact as if nothing has happened.

NC started to make you feel better; when he told you not to contact him you were able to maintain NC without any discomfort. Unless you wanted to re enter the same cycle again, NC seems your best option. Curiosity is at best allowed to die its own death.

Dear Clerance, I’m currently going through a breakup too where my ex bf was the dumper.  It’s been a little over 2 months since my breakup and in the beginning I tried to keep in contact. I wanted to have a friendship and he said the same thing too but for some reason I was the one always initiating conversation. I still had feelings for him and he was giving me mixed signals about his feelings but After a month I decided to go No Contact because I didn’t want to keep hurting myself and giving myself false hope. I feel like you should continue with your no contact too. Your ex sounds a little confused about his feelings maybe. I think you need to continue to maintain space between him and continue to focus on yourself. No worries, you will find a new partner who isn’t moody and knows exactly what he wants.

Best of Luck!