Dear Sheelanagig:
Feeling anger at a person means you believe that the person mistreated you. Sometimes we feel anger at people who didn’t mistreat us, but we believe they did. So first, figure out if the person really did mistreat you. If he or she did, then figure what it is that you need to do. Once you do what is needed, what is most effective, the anger then would serve its purpose and relax.
I wonder if you are referring to the man you shared about on the other thread. If you would like to share about the nature of the mistreatment, please do. Maybe I can help you figure out what it is that you need to do, what would be effective.
* I will soon be away from the computer for about 15 hours.
anita