Hi Rick
My feelings on such matters is that after such a breakup a clean break is the best for everyone involved.
If she has asked you to stop contacting her you need to respect that.  Her response to the birthday contact didn’t invite any further contact so its pretty clear.

Sometimes Love requires that a relationship ends. I’ve been there and I know it hurts. Sorry

Hi Rick,

I disagree with what Peter said, because at no point in your first message did you state that she had specifically told you not to contact her. I believe that yes, she is hurt by you. And I do think that subconsciously, blocking you is a way of her showing you that.

Firstly, (I’m 24) – know this: throughout your 20s, and especially if you are an open and loving person, you are going to fall in love – whether platonically, romantically etc. with a lot of different people. This will be for many different reasons – maybe they understand you better than anyone has, or maybe your soul resonates with their suffering on a level like no other. We are never taught how to manage these feelings or relationships, but I recently learnt this: if you treat the people you love/ care about as a friend, with the highest respect and create a relationship that is always honest – you can’t really go wrong.

One thing you can do in this situation, is think about how much you care about her as a friend. Write a letter, and speak to her on that caring friend level, and explain how you perceived things/ why things happened the way you did, and why you are sorry (emphasise on the apology). Tell her how much she means in your life. Then choose the best method of how to get this to her – whether through a written letter/ email/ instagram message etc. You will know which social media platform she is most likely to read.

Cat