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  • February 26, 2018 at 6:31 pm #194875
    James
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    Good Evening,

    I enjoyed reading your story. Men operate totally different from women but I believe you keep getting what you have already received.  I don’t believe your friend will commit anytime soon. I love your positive outlook! Have a great night!

     

    February 27, 2018 at 5:29 am #194951
    Anonymous
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    Dear Donatto:

    I like it that you learned  from this relationship, that you took a valuable lesson from it and “decided trying  to be  friends first with the next person, with no intentions for romantic or sexual involvement”- that is, to  get to know the next person first, before further involvement.

    When we become emotionally/ physically  involved  with another, that involvement interferes with rational thinking. It interferes with the objective evaluation of  who the person is.

    One most  important thing to  evaluate before such involvement is the other person’s  intent and ability to carry on a monogamous relationship with you.

    * If friendship with him will cause you distress that cannot be resolved, better not be  friends with him.

    anita

    February 27, 2018 at 6:06 am #194953
    Inky
    Participant

    Hi Donatto,

    Here’s something I reminded my daughter about: “You were never interested in this guy at first. He went after YOU. Then you eventually became attached, but really, he’s the one who pursued YOU. You lived without him happily before. So you don’t need him now. What kind of a player is he if you weren’t even interested in him first? Then he sees other people? Please!”

    It’s the same advice, really.

    Best,

    Inky

    February 27, 2018 at 10:32 am #195029
    Donatto
    Participant

    You guys are awesome, thanks for the support. His mind is definitely confusing; I believe he needs to improve his self awareness, he just seems to be trying everything to see if at some point something clicks. Little does he know, that doing things in such a half-hearted manner is detrimental to everyone, including himself. Poor guy. I definitely don’t need all this drama in my life. Like I told him, I’d love to stay alone. The feelings and hopes of love are slowly fading away, I am readapting and getting back to my balance.

    February 27, 2018 at 11:15 am #195039
    Anonymous
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    Dear Donatto:

    You are welcome and thank you for the appreciation.

    Readapting and getting back your balance reads good to me. Post again anytime you’d like.

    anita

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