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    Sharon
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    Hi Ben, I believe you are magnifying the thoughts in your head and it’s causing you increased anxiety. You are going through a rough patch and a time of transition and it’s not abnormal for anxiety, confusion and maybe even feelings of hopelessness to come because it appears that things are not manifesting the way you would like them to at this current moment. However, it’s how you are choosing to look at your situation that Are likely causing the feelings of hopelessness and increased anxiety. Despise not the day of small beginnings. GOD makes everything beautiful in its time. You are simply going through a period of metamorphosis and the test is to choose to look at these changes from a positive perspective. You have been blessed with gifts and talents and if it appears one thing isn’t working just re-strategize and develop a new plan. Usually while in a period of transition we have to balance re-starting and building while also having the patience and belief that things will improve and you will achieve a place of success and stability. Try to look at what you are experiencing rt now as a temporary place. If it’s raining and storming then eventually the sunshine has to come the key is believing that. Hang in there. Things will get better and you will smile and laugh again. Adjust your thinking and believe things are going to get better. You will eventually find your passion and the job that makes you happy you just have to hold it together. Sometimes our trials come to teach us and test us and once we pass the tests we go to the level. I encourage you to stay positive and prayerful and above all believe everything is going to get better for you, only BELIEVE. May GOD bless you with peace and wellness and prosperity.

    #150195
    Anonymous
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    Dear Ben:

    I remember your previous threads. This state of mind and life has been going on for a long time.

    You wrote that “the thought of a surprise pregnancy wouldn’t send me running for the hills”- make sure your fiancé knows about this and agrees to not have children until and if your ongoing state of anxiety changes and stays changed for a long time. Then make sure a surprise pregnancy doesn’t happen.

    You wrote that you pretend to your fiancé that you “have a plan and I am the guy who knows what I am doing”- consider no longer pretending to her and tell her the truth. Maybe if she knows, she will be able to help you, and the two of you will be able to help each other. (She may be more resourceful than you think)

    You expressed jealousy and envy (here and previously) regarding your friends/ people your age/those in the gaming industry- consider correcting your thinking in this regard. Very often, distressed people have the distorted view that everyone else is doing oh, so well and have it all together. It just seems that way and it is an isolating way of seeing others and life.

    I wish you stopped comparing yourself to others.

    Your anxiety is troubling. You wrote that doctors said you are okay. Still you have to find the time to lose the weight you believe you need to lose and find a way to be calmer than you are.

    anita

     

    #150488
    Inky
    Participant

    Hi Ben,

    Very often (VERY often!) what we “want to do when we grow up” simply isn’t there anymore by the time we’ve graduated/arrived/made it. I’m an artist and several of my friends are professionals. I’m more talented on paper (literally) but some people simply have more luck/connections/business acumen. I, too, went into a depression.

    What I’ve learned is (at least for me) is that you can get in trouble when we’re TOO attached to the idea of  “Follow your Passion and the Money will Follow”. What can happen is when the money/job/career isn’t coming that actually kills our passion. Let your job be your job and view your gaming/art as a side job. For now! Advertise locally and get small jobs. Eventually the tide will turn and you will be in demand.

    As for anxiety, try Running. I know, I know. But listen, I did interval training (walk/run, you can find plans online) and it was the most addictive thing I’ve ever done. I’m in great shape now, and LOOK great according to the “WOW!”s I’ve gotten. I sleep better too.

    Good Luck,

    Inky

    • This reply was modified 7 years, 10 months ago by Inky.
    #150810
    ANis
    Participant

    Hi Ben, sorry to hear of your trouble. I was in a sort of similar place as you a few years back. The constant comparison pulls you way down. And focusing on all that is wrong, kicks you while you’re down.

    Here’s what I did that helped me.

    1. Social media fast for 1 month. Total blackout.

    2. Every day, before bed, I wrote 5 things I am grateful for and why.

    Whilst these won’t help you land a job. It begins the process of looking for the good in life, what you already have. Truth is, you already know the answers, the universe is always communicating with us. When we’re shrouded in negative thinking, there’s no way for us to receive the right answers. Cultivating joy where you are right now, can help clear away the clouds. Then, you get that impulsive nudge to send an email, an insight to call someone, or something like that.

    Good luck 🙂

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