Jamie,

Wow. I am going through the exact same thing. ?But it happened November 2015, and i decided to forgive. I don’t regret my decision whatsoever but at times, it really is hard. And it takes a lot of dedication from both you and your boyfriend to make this work. I broke up with my boyfriend because he wasn’t putting in the effort I wanted, and he ended up making out with another girl and it truly devestated me. But what you have to remember is that… you were broken up. He was free to do whatveee he wanted… and I know it’s stereotypical, but boys really do react different to break ups than girls. And Most of the time, they try to move on by finding someone else. But it’s important to realize that he admitted it, and he’s sorry and he wants you back. People make mistakes. But one important thing… how old is he? This happens with my boyfriend when he was only 19… aka an age of immaturity and stupid mistakes, and I think he’s learned from them. But if your boyfriend is 25+ and is still making stupid immature mistakes, that changes everything. So let me know! Good luck, but I would forgive him and make sure he knows it’s going to take a great amount of effort to repair the relationship, but it’s possible and definitely worth it if you’re both willing.

Exactly. So why are you even questioning forgiving him? You weren’t together and he was lonely. It sucks now, but I have faith that you both can get through this, just be patentier because the ride isn’t going to be easy. You’re going to ask the same questions 100 times and you’re going to less trusting, it’s a slow process.