Dear anand1989:

You have a few talents, multi talented. You wished you lived in a big city and become famous for one or more of these talents. Or at least have friends and a girlfriend, attend college there.

Instead, you are expected to take over a family business in a village. You have no interest in that business, nor do you want to live in that village. Your father ignores you, other family members make fun of you-

I would like to better understand your situation, so I have a few questions:

1) You wrote that your father doesn’t advise you and is ignoring you. If he is interested in you taking over the family business, how is it that he is ignoring you? Isn’t he trying to teach you the family business?

Did you ask him for advice, what did you ask and how did he respond?

2) You wrote that your cousins are not talking to you. Why aren’t they talking to you?

3) You wrote that all members of your family are making fun of you. What specifically are they making fun about you?

4) You wrote that if you lived in a big city you would become a famous multi talent artist- how do you think it could happen, you becoming famous? How fast would it take you to become famous?

5) Why is it, do you think, that you don’t have friends or a girlfriend although you desire those?

anita

Hi anand1989,

First, please find some help for your suicidal thoughts. If mental health services are not available where you live, you can write to the Samaritans http://samaritan.org or use the Lifeline Online Chat http://chat.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/GetHelp/LifelineChat.aspx.

It sounds like the other posters can help you create a plan and find some direction. So don’t be afraid to do that. I changed direction completely when I was 35, and it was the best choice I ever made. Here is an article I wrote for Tiny Buddha about it: http://dev.tinybuddha.com/blog/forget-should-and-live-the-life-you-want-to-live/

Hang in there, and keep us posted!

Bethany