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December 16, 2016 at 9:14 am #122881
Anonymous
GuestDear rrangel:
Your story depicts a despicable, aggressive, dishonest woman doctor who took advantage of you, threatening you and your mother, for financial benefit and she succeeded in doing that.
Your mother, in turn, submitted to that woman, paying her money on top of the money already spent financing that woman’s husband. And then, your mother believed that woman’s lies, turning against you and calling you names. She doesn’t like your boyfriend and is harassing you over that relationship.
You did the right thing to move away from Honduras, away from that woman and the people she turned against you. Next right thing for you to do, it seems to me, is to move away from your mother. Maybe join your boyfriend who is supportive of you, join him in his location…?
anita
December 16, 2016 at 9:31 am #122886Rangel
ParticipantHi dear anita
Thank you for your reply. Actually I was in Macapá (a brazilian city in Amazon area) and the doctor woman comes from Honduras.
Yes, in those moments we try to find what is wrong on us, you know and try to understand for me becomes worse, I’m trying to keep on my mind good thoughts and thankfully here in my birthtown I have my friends to count in.
Yes, we think in something like that soon, hope it works within a year. To move to another brazilian city together or his country, till there I need to join my strenghts. Want to start yoga classes to stay relieved daily and work in my gratefulness
December 16, 2016 at 9:34 am #122887Anonymous
GuestDear rrangel:
You are welcome. Your plan to move together with your supportive boyfriend, to another city in Brazil or to his country, sounds good to me. You need support, not enemies. As long as your mother is hurting you, as long as anyone is hurting you, the right thing is to move away from that person.
Hope your yoga provides you with relief. Post anytime.
anita
December 16, 2016 at 9:38 am #122888Rangel
ParticipantDear anita,
Yes, I totally agree. Many blessings for you!
December 16, 2016 at 9:58 am #122891Anonymous
GuestThank you, rrangel. Post anytime.
anitaDecember 18, 2016 at 7:44 am #122961Inky
ParticipantHi rrangel,
I’m late for replying, but if you read this, may I say:
I totally agree with anita. Move out of your mother’s house even if it’s with the boyfriend. If you are old enough to study to become a doctor, you are old enough to get married (if your relationship leads to that one day) and to whom.
Another thing about parents and authority figures: When things aren’t going well some will pick on the easiest one to pick on. She was afraid of the doctor woman because it looks like she was desperate for you to get your degree. Then when it all went south it was more convenient for her to “believe” the doctor woman than you. Her anger towards you is that she feels powerless and you are now the target of choice.
I’m sorry this happened to you. I wish you all the best for the future!!
Blessings,
Inky
December 21, 2016 at 6:02 am #123193Rangel
ParticipantDear Inky,
Thank you for read and share your words with me. Yes, actually often happens threats from my mom to me about too little things, when she wants to put me under her control. Plus I have a 6 years old brother who has hyperactivity, she blames me many times when he breaks something for example. He is overweight and don’t want to eat fruit nor healthy food, not at all. So, she blames me as well for that situation, I try to help him offering healthier stuff, but he starts to scream and so on. Currently I’m working in my gratefulness to transfer it to others around… Despite is too hard daily to deal with such things, there are still strenghts to be grateful for.
So for while I’m waiting a result from a test to a Medicine university and I will get it in 19th jan. If it doesn’t work, I will prepare myself this year again to be approved and will spend as less time as possible at home, teaching math classes for highschool students nearby my home. Then I will take the next step, we (me and my mom) need a time apart to work in our relationship better and take learning from it.
Thank you once more time and wish you happy holidays!
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