Dear Williams:

You are in a difficult situation- living with an abusive husband and two young children away from any possibly supportive family and friends in your original country. No wonder this teacher, being kind to you and to your children one time, no wonder your hope is with him to replace your abusive husband one day and provide the happy, loving home for your children and you.

I hope this happens this way, but one step at a time. From here (your current situation) to there (a possible situation where you are living with a loving, kind man and father figure to your children, there is a way to go.

There is no hope- and should be no hope to a marriage where a spouse, husband or wife, is abusive to the other. Your husband is clearly abusive to you and to the children by abusing you in their presence, and by hurting their mother. If he does not repent, asks for your forgiveness and drastically corrects his behavior, there is no hope.

If I was you, protecting my children would be my first priority- they must not be witnesses to fighting between their parents or to any other abuse, direct or indirect. If achieving this takes you leaving the country and going back to your original country- do so. If it takes removing the children from him any other way- do so.

Maybe you can talk to the teacher you like about your situation, for advice. Maybe he can direct you to someone else ho can help you and your children. What do you think about asking him for his time for this purpose?

anita