Hi There!

!. What makes This One Person the Spokesman for the Group??
2. Why is going to the Summer Music Festival so dam important??
3. I predict that as your old friends get married, have kids and separate lives that NO ONE will “grow with the group”!

Solutions:

1. Write “I regret we won’t be able to attend”. They know why. If they ask what’s up, go to #2.
2. Contact each person from the old group individually. Tell them (despite and because of warnings!) that the “Spokesman” referred them as HIS friends and that he would put a stop to that. Say that no matter what they may think of your BF (each one will deny that they said anything!) are they going to let That Guy mandate their friendships?
3. Let it be awkward (for That Guy). Hang out with each person OUTSIDE of The Group. You are changing the Dynamics of The Group. And it’s about time! Deep, deep down I bet most of them are getting tired of “Music Festival is like Church in Medieval Times: Must Attend!!” They will also like your BF better as they won’t have other group members to feed off of gossip wise. And they’ll feel more loyalty to you two.

I never understood the very collegiate mentality of “Original Group is Awesome! Newcomers Stink!” mentality.

Good Luck!

Inky

• This reply was modified 8 years, 10 months ago by Inky.