Hi ramy,

Sometimes WE have to make the decision to be OK with ourselves. I mean really: You’re eating right, exercising, being mindful, keeping busy and are genuinely a good guy! Some mystical over-soul figure isn’t going to reach down from above and proclaim, “YOU ARE OK”. That’s what I finally learned as an adult. No one’s grading, no one’s watching, and no one’s keeping score. And if they are, THEY would be cast out of my life immediately!

I say, “I am OK with myself!”

And if someone challenges me or asks for reasons or credendials, I reply, “Because I say so, that’s why!”

Blessings,

Inky

I’m not sure how to make it more clear, hmmm…

Let’s see… Cop the attitude and repeat everyday to yourself in the mirror, “All is well, including myself”.

Pick up the book The Power of Now. That will help.

And remember, everything is SUBJECTIVE. Meaning someone might say, “This is great!” and another person might say, “It stinks!” Which perspective is correct? Both? None?

So you be good with YOU and it will be OK.

Inky

Ramy

Try to remember some things take time, sometimes a long time, I am an ex self harmer, something i did from aged 11. i stopped 9 years ago now but the thoughts still niggle at me, especially in times of stress, I am still finding out about me even after all these years and it’s hardwork ignoring all those nasty voices.
some days i fly and some days i sink but i look at myself on that day and know i am still better than i used to be and i keep going keep trying.
Try to stop seeking an ultimate goal of happiness, stop expecting instant results and just focus on your day to day progress.
I always remember that a wound heals but it leaves a scar and that scar takes time to fade if at all.
You are doing great, keep telling yourself that and keep going.

Hi ramy,

Yes there is a solution, as every problem has the seeds of its own solution too.
Help is in reach to you.

I am glad that you have the willingness to do something to bring about a change in your situation and feel happy again. In order to provide with some solution, and a practical one, can you do the below? I have read your post – you need not write anything about your “story”. But just list down what are your current problems that you want them to be resolved. Perhaps the strongest ones –

I have listed below to begin with-

1) shyness, awkwardness
2) fear of talking to others?
3) fear of rejection between people
4) low self esteem
5) perfectionist guy (if you don’t think this is a problem, then remove from the list)
6) trying to be liked by all (people pleasing mentality?)
.
.
.

Rearrange the numbers such that the strongest ones are at the top and the less bothering ones are at the bottom. Continue the number system likewise.

Regards,
VJ

• This reply was modified 8 years, 2 months ago by VJ.
• This reply was modified 8 years, 2 months ago by VJ.

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