now a mother of 2 years old, married around 4 years back. i met my husband on a social media and we decided to get married after a friendship of around 5 years. his family were against our marriage. the main reason which i can find out is the difference in status of both families. my husband belongs to a affluent and highly educated family whereas my parents and family are lower middle class and their background is also totally different, my parents are not educated and running small businesses for income.
after my marriage, i decided to continue my job and for that we are living apart from my husband’s parents and siblings as our job is far from their place.
initially every one in my husband’s family wanted me to quit my job to take care of house hold chores. some how i convince my husband to continue my job. after my marriage, being a elder daughter i decided to help my parents and siblings financially as a long term debt for their studies, my sisters marriage and my parents illness. my husband was not agreed for this. but it was my responsibility. i tried to convince him that his family may also need his support that time he will also help them. but now result.

i feel the main reason our stressful relations is financial condition of my parents. my parents promised me to return back all debts in terms of a property which i feel is fair enough and this way i also tried to convince my husband.

but my husband don’t respect my parents. many time he speaks bad and sarcastic words for them to me. like he don’t even want me or daughter to go to meet them.every time when i want him to accompany me to meet them at their place in any family get together or for any occasion. he directly refuses or come up with some meaningless excuses whereas he expects me to love his parents, sisters and even all other far relatives. he like to attend his family functions. but for my family get together, always i have to request and convince him. even if he attend any of my family get together he behaves like a stranger and do not like to sit and talk to any one.

last year, we planned a trip on occasion of my daughter’s first birthday. my parents and sister and his mother also accompanied us. but throughout the trip he was behaving so stressed and angry on me. may be because he was spending money. he was just concern for his mother’s comfort. on a compliant of his mother, he created a very big scene and insulted me and family members. i felt so bad for my parents. that must be the worst day of their life.

now whenever he speak some thing bad for my family, in response, i also retaliate very badly for his family members. i throw all my anger out in this manner. he many times hurts me in such situations.

this is all because i want him to respect my parents and family too. but he don’t care for this and never realize his mistake.

this feeling is very painful. i also want to have happy relations with his family and always tries to gel with them even after their many hardships. but my husband don’t even care for my parents.

if i also had rich parents, the situation could be better.

now, i am feeling so tired of saving my relation. this is a meaning less relation where we do not respect each other and our feelings.
only money is important.

i don’t to be in this relation any one but concern for my daughter and parents. what should i do?