“Silence is a source of great strength.” ~Lao Tzu
Sometimes, when we feel stressed, frustrated, annoyed, confused, overwhelmed, or anything uncomfortable, it can seem tremendously helpful to talk about it incessantly.
But I’ve noticed that venting is often far less effective than I assume it will be. If you’ve ever talked yourself in circles instead of communicating and letting go, you know precisely what I mean.
All the words in the world can’t change the fact that sometimes we just need to sit with our feelings. No amount of validation, advice, or external support will change that we alone need to choose solutions to our problems and then find the strength to implement them.
Other people can be there to help us, but at the end of the day, we need to find the answers within ourselves and then draw upon our own strength to do something about it.
Today, if you wish someone else would tell you what to do, take a moment to sit with the sensation of not knowing. You just may find it becomes a lot clearer when you stop looking for answers outside yourself.
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About Lori Deschene
Lori Deschene is the founder of Tiny Buddha. She started the site after struggling with depression, bulimia, c-PTSD, and toxic shame so she could recycle her former pain into something useful and inspire others do the same. She recently created the Breaking Barriers to Self-Care eCourse to help people overcome internal blocks to meeting their needs—so they can feel their best, be their best, and live their best possible life. If you’re ready to start thriving instead of merely surviving, you can learn more and get instant access here.
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