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How to Change Your Life Without Doing Anything Big or Scary

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“Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.” ~Jim Rohn

We’re human.

Every single one of us participates in behavior that we know has a negative or adverse effect on our well-being.

We also know that at some point we are going to have to stop these negative behaviors, because ultimately, they create bigger problems for us. However, most of us choose to wait until something breaks before we decide to take any action toward fixing a problem.

I waited to change my diet.

I waited until things got really bad and I was forced to react drastically in order to change my outcome.

Difficult?

Ummm, that would be an understatement. Let’s just say the list of what I had to give up was so extensive, it was easier to tell people what I could eat rather than what I could no longer eat.

It was an extremely difficult transition, and I’m not going that route ever again. No ma’am.

Everything you do to improve any area of your life, no matter how small, matters.

Why?

Because change is a process, and it’s an undeniable fact that a lot of tiny successes add up to bigger ones. If you make small steps consistently over time, it is impossible for your momentum to not shift in your favor.

Consistency is key.

If you add a marble to a glass every day, just one marble, eventually it’s going to fill up, right?

It’s exactly the same with change, but somehow, somewhere, we got it in our mind that change was an all-or-nothing proposal.

This mindset has left many of us completely paralyzed and incapable of instituting new behavior, because we only see the end result. Then fear paralyzes us because the process involved in getting to our end goal just feels like too much work.

I tell people all the time to “chunk it out.” I don’t care what it is, just chunk the task out into smaller, doable, reasonable bites, and eventually you will feel the shift in momentum and make the final push toward achieving any goal.

As I age, I know if I want to have a good quality of life, there are more changes in my future. There is no getting around it.

Instead of waiting for things to break (as I have previously done), I’m taking an easier route. I’m going to be proactive rather than reactive. I’m taking my own advice and chunking it all out now, before another problem presents itself. I got the wake-up call.

Here’s what I know for sure.

I want to be strong going into the second half on my life.

I do not want to wither away and die o-l-d. In order to reach that goal, I need to take consistent action toward changing my overall heath and integrate some new behaviors into my weekly routine.

In the last four months I have started activity in three areas that I am certain will help me achieve my long-term goal of overall better health. Hopefully, my actions will inspire you to make small changes in whatever area of your life you’d like to improve.

Meditation

Our culture has us running around with our hair on fire trying to be overachievers.

I have known for a long time that meditation would be a gateway to a lot of good things in my life, but my biggest draw for meditation was stress-reduction. Somehow I convinced myself I couldn’t do it because I didn’t have an extra forty-five minutes a day to sit and learn to quiet my mind.

I have no idea why I thought it would take that much time, but it doesn’t much matter. I used this excuse to talk myself right out of participating because it would require time I didn’t have. If I were completely honest, I’d admit I just didn’t want to do the work.

As my stress level grew, so did my awareness that I needed to take action.

I took my own advice and chunked it out. I searched “guided five-minute meditation” videos on YouTube. Five minutes a day, twice a week. That’s where I started.

Then I bumped it up to seven minutes…then ten…then fifteen.

There are thousands of guided meditations on YouTube. You’ll never run out of options. I found a variety of lengths that suit me and I integrate them as I can.

Now I’m going to hour-long meditations outside my home once or twice a month, and I love them.

It took me months to get up to where I’m at now, and I’m still not doing it daily, but I am patting myself on the back for what I am doing instead of beating myself up for still not taking action.

The whole point is to create the habit in a way that is doable, not overwhelming, and I’m very hopeful.

Cardio Exercise

The bane of my existence has always been routine exercise. I have probably joined the gym eight times in my life, and actually showed up and worked out maybe twenty times in total. The thought of getting on a machine to exercise makes me want to throw up, no joke.

Run? Not unless someone is chasing me.

Walk? Routinely, not so much. Every now and then yes, but I have to have a destination. My brain can’t embrace walking for walking sake. I keep trying, but have great difficulty in maintaining it as a routine practice.

So what’s a gal to do?

I decided to try cycling.

I bought an inexpensive beach cruiser to test the water, installed big baskets on the rear, and now I do a vast majority of weekly errands on my bike. Cardio exercise, sunshine, and vitamin D, along with an opportunity to easily stop and chat with people during my ride, make this a huge win.

I love the idea of having a task or a destination. It totally changes my perception of the activity in my head. I’m no longer exercising, I’m getting stuff done.

I live two miles from the heart of a beautiful coastal city of about 60,000 people. We’re not small, but we’re not large either. The downtown area is speckled with lots of mom-and-pop operations, as well as places I regularly visit like my bank, the post office, the library, coffee shops, museums, and my local food co-op.

As I ride my bike to and from any errands or meetings here’s what I’ve discovered…

Endorphins.

Serotonin.

I had completely forgotten all about them. They make me feel really good. My brain has made that new association and is inspired.

Winning!

Yoga

The healthiest older folks I know practice yoga. The benefits for the mind and body are life-changing. I have known for a long time that I would benefit greatly from yoga, but in my mind this fell into the “gym” mentality I had about exercise, and I was hesitant to grab this bull by the horns and take action.

What’s a gal to do?

Chunk it out.

I didn’t sign up for a six-month package at a yoga studio. Nope. Once again, I turned to YouTube and decided what kind of time commitment I was up for (fifteen minutes), and got cracking.

I started with targeted shoulder/back/relaxation stretching for newbies. I did this once a week for several weeks. Once a week.

Then I expanded a little bit to a twenty-three-minute sitting yoga video for the same targeted area. I did this once a week for several more weeks.

The next step was attending free classes that were held at the community center at my local food co-op. I found one that I liked and went a few times. Then found another. Now I go twice a week every week and will continue to so.

As expected, these changes have had an incredibly positive impact on my day-to-day life.

Mostly, I’m proud of myself for finally taking action, and I love the sense of satisfaction I have from doing so.

Self-empowerment through change is inspiring!

When we prove to ourselves that we can successfully institute a new behavior, it encourages us to move toward more.

In my opinion, zero to hero is not a recipe for success.

Chunk it out.

Make it doable.

Proactive behavior has had a snowball effect in my life. The more positive changes I see and feel, the more I want to experience.

Still winning!

Winner pose image via Shutterstock

About Jodi Brown

Jodi is a spunky fifty-three-year-old chef, educator, and organizer helping women transition from where they are to where they want to be. Her conduit? Food. If you are tired, overweight, and lethargic, jump start your change by adding one nutrient-dense green smoothie every day. Freebie, newsletter, tips & program info can be found at www.jodibrownceo.com

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Mike McClement

Hi Jodi, many thanks for sharing some really helpful thoughts. I’ve always been fascinated with the concept of ‘change’. I agree with you that small steps lead in time to real change. For me though, at the very start, the key to moving on is first to get ready and be prepared for your reaction to change. Peoples’ immediate first reaction normally tends to be DENIAL. If you’re ready for this you stand a good chance of getting past it. If not you may well get stuck. Some people get stuck on denial and never get to move on to Resistance (passive acceptance), then Exploration of the benefits and ultimately Commitment to the change. Cheers, Mike

Lori

“Our culture has us running around with our hair on fire trying to be overachievers.”

Jodi! You have named the beast so skillfully. The idea that we are not smart enough or pretty enough. That we do not have enough. That we are not doing enough. That we will never be enough. These messages are everywhere and so many of us have internalized them. Thank you for sharing your story.

We so often hear of the experience at the end of the process of change when the transformation is nearly complete. It’s nice to hear about the middle. Where a few minutes practice every once in awhile turns into something more.

Colleen A. Dockendorf

Hello Jodi, I really enjoyed your article. I’ve had a rough past year that started from a procedure that went wrong. I’ve actually turned things around and stepped out to help myself and am walking with a cane now. I had been sitting on the fence talking myself out of being proactive in getting better, but the past 2 months I have changed that. Your article has help to encourage me to get moving even more. I’m on my way out the door to sign up to do a water aerobics-yoga class, and to join the indoor pool in my community so I can walk in the pool daily. Thank you for such encouraging words. Many Blessings… Colleen✨

Kristen

Such a great reminder that we don’t have to have it figured out 100% before we take a step in the direction of the changes we desire. I feel like I’ve got a bit of a cha-cha-cha going on, three steps forward, two steps back. As long as I’m eventually getting to my destination it’s all good and when I remember to enjoy the movement and keep the rhythm I have fun on my way. Thank you for encouragement.

Jodi Brown

Ha ha. Love that. Let’s dance, Kristen.

Jodi Brown

Great news Colleen! The hardest part of any move forward is starting. You’ve done that. Now all you have to do is take more frequent steps. Baby steps. It is ah-mazing how quickly we start getting results when we just move. The body’s natural condition is to be healthy. Giving it the tools it needs to do that is about consistency, not necessarily quantity.

Super proud of you for taking the first STEP. Good luck.

Jodi Brown

Thanks for commenting, Lori. Full tilt and I are NOT friends. I can never live up to the ridiculous expectations and thus fall into the downward spiral of as you so aptly say…not being enough. I call bullshit. Seriously. All or nothing is a recipe for disaster. I’ve had an amazing life one little step at a time.

BTW, you are enough, exactly the way you are!

Peace.

Lori

Jodi, I had to read your comment twice. There is an ice cream parlor in town called Full Tilt. The first time I read it I thought you were saying you and ice cream were not friends! Lol.

Peace to you as well.

Trish Taylor Coaching

Fabulous! I love cycling, wish I lived closer to the where there were more bike lanes. Yoga is definitely on my list.

Jodi Brown

Ice cream, lol!! Awesome name.
We’re GREAT friends, me and ice cream we just don’t visit much these days

Jodi Brown

Hopefully, Trish, more bike lanes are in ALL of our futures. Yoga has been a great game changer for not only my body, but my mind too. Tiny steps, don’t forget.
Thanks for commenting.

Sandra Louise walsh

Great post Jodi, thank you for sharing your breakthroughs. I totally agree, we can get overwhelmed when we try to change too much and it can cause us to choose to stay the same, even when we know it’s not serving us. By taking small, manageable steps we soon start to see improvement. After all, the only thing we can be absolutely CERTAIN of, is we’re only going to live once and this is it. Grasp every opportunity to live well and be healthy, you never know what’s around the next corner. 😉

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