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  • April 4, 2016 at 8:14 pm #100882
    Anonymous
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    Dear Oldsouledhippie:

    I like the idea: living your dreams and being who you are meant to be (your last line). Being a musician, playing the guitar in your own band, being non-materialistic, unconventional, a modern day hippie. Free to choose your friends, your job… free from your parents’ judgments, their values, their over protection. All good.

    How old are you? (If you are legally an adult, then legally you own your life and legally you can move anywhere, get a job anywhere, live anywhere… quite exciting…

    anita

    April 4, 2016 at 8:20 pm #100887
    Hannah
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    I’m turning 20 in December, but I don’t feel like I have any control in my life. I do what my parents want because I live under their roof and can’t afford to live anywhere else. Therefore, I should be in control but I’m not at all.

    April 4, 2016 at 8:26 pm #100888
    Anonymous
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    Dear oldsouledhippie:

    You didn’t ask any question in your post. Is there a question or questions?

    You wrote that your parents will not listen to you and will not accommodate your wishes. Since you want to pursue what you wish, and you can’t do it in your parents’ home, are you planning to move out, saving money (you work, right?) and moving out?

    anita

    April 5, 2016 at 4:57 am #100915
    Inky
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    Hi oldsouledhippie,

    I had over protective parents too. I totally get everything!! The worst one, my mother, suddenly dropped the reins though when I turned 19. It was like, in the nest one minute, and flying the next. No in-between!!

    But here’s the thing: You have to go to college. I don’t care if it’s night school at the local Community College. Something out of the house that gives you some semblance of independence.

    Do you have any aunts, uncles, grandparents and cousins you could visit? Here’s an idea: Visit them. And don’t come back! I am not being sarcastic. My cousin stayed with us for years during her post-grad years and it was wonderful ~ for everyone!

    When you leave, your parents can’t do anything because you are an adult. They can’t call the police because you are over eighteen and will tell them that you are leaving!!

    Instead of listing what you can’t do, figure out what you can and how you can make it happen.

    You can do it! You are (despite your parents) a grown-azzed woman!!

    Inky

    April 5, 2016 at 5:55 am #100918
    Hannah
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    I will not go to college. I refuse to be in debt to a government that I don’t agree with or trust. Anyway. Those stupid papers don’t mean anything anymore. Especially for music, which is what I want to do. I don’t have anybody who lives here. Everyone either can’t drive anymore or they moved to Arizona. I refuse to move back to Arizona because of the dispute my aunt and my parents have. My grandparents like 10-15 minutes away, but I couldn’t live with them. They can barely afford rent and I’m not paying it for them. They always go out to eat. I just couldn’t do it.

    April 5, 2016 at 8:24 am #100925
    Anonymous
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    Dear oldsouledhippie:

    I noticed a long time ago that lots and lots of people with college education are not making any use career/ income wise. Millions of people in the U.S. alone, I believe. And not wanting to get in student loan debt makes a lot of sense to me.

    So what are you going to do? You stated the problems, limitations. I too wish your parents were not overprotective all those years. I wish there was a respectful open, honest communication between you and them. But reality, there is not. Therefore there must be a plan in the making to move beyond these limitations..?

    anita

    April 5, 2016 at 9:00 am #100929
    Niyata
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    Hi Oldsouledhippie,

    Read your post and felt like reading my own recap… i was like you too at that age,,I didn’t concentrate on music But i did complete my college education.. Yes of course for music you don’t need a college degree but… Field of art is heavily competitive nowadays everybody is singing and dancing.. and how are you going to stand out in the crowd. You have to find that uniqueness in your talent and develop it.. I’m from India.. my parents never understood or understand what i talk till now.. But i still suggest you to give that a shot by talking to them. Being independent is tough in the start but i promise you will evolve and be the best. But for that you need a income source to protect yourself and also to pursue your dream career. Think on it. I strongly agree with the point that you wont have control over yourself. At this age.. i seek approval and look up to to someone for everything even though i live alone i cant make decisions.. i always have trauma what if something goes wrong.. its all as a result of that childhood pressure. My best thoughts would be if u earn some money to take care of your needs you can tell your parents and move out with or without their consent and focus on your passion. Eventually they will understand its all for good when you are in flying colors in your music career.. All the best.. Be brave and take the big leap..

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