worst year ever!

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November 13, 2013 at 7:56 pm #45286

Matt
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Kylie,

I am so sorry for your loss. You’ll be in my prayers. I hope you have the space to stomp and scream and cry as needed. What’s her name? (If you don’t mind sharing).

With warmth,
Matt

November 14, 2013 at 1:18 am #45293

Karin
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Dear Kylie,

Of course you feel lost and I can totally imagine you don’t know how to sort your feelings. But it’s okay to feel sad. Like Matt says, to stomp and scream and cry as needed. Take your time. Write about it, talk about it, cry about it.

I wish you lots of strength and love,
Karin

p.s. happy to read about you and your other half finding a home and getting back on your feet 🙂

November 14, 2013 at 3:03 am #45299

kylie
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Her name is Harvie-lee 🙂 we like unusual names. She was 1lb 10 and asolutely perfect. Fully formed.perfect features. Tests show perfectly healthy little girl was literally the abruption caused lack of oxygen 🙁 heartbreaking! Everyone around is rushing around sorting xmas and we just stare blanklu like seriously wats the point, and im usually such Xmas baby, usually love it.

Thanks for replying guys 🙂 xx

November 14, 2013 at 6:15 am #45305

Matt
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Kylie,

Harvie-lee is an unusual name, and pretty… good choice! Xmas? I can totally understand why that is meaningless right now… its like “ho ho ho? Don’t you know a cataclysm just happened?!?”

I’m grateful for the light Harvie-lee brought to the world in her short time with us, and for the strength of your love. Was she a kicker? Did she like to take naps on your bladder? 🙂 Kids can sure be mischevious!

With warmth,
Matt

November 14, 2013 at 8:09 am #45306

kylie
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Oh yes she was defo a kicker! I used to ‘ground’ her, sometimes it was out of control so i wud say ‘thats it, this child is grounded’ lol. Omg i miss those days, as for my bladder i think even the bathroom had had enough of my visits lol.

How r things for u? Hope not too tough xx

November 14, 2013 at 9:39 pm #45345

Matt
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Kylie,

I am well, thanks for asking. The grief for my daughter (Aura) is a distant scar at this point, but its also 13 years later. The love is there, the sorrow is there… but its a small ache compared to the gratitude I feel for what she brought, what she helped awaken in me and her mother.

As for the life that is here and now for me, things are going really well. My love for everyone is growing, and as I connect to people I am continually inspired by their love, courage, tenacity and wisdom. Like yours! For instance, I know you see loss and pain, which I see too, and cry a little alongside you. But I also see an incredible mom and woman, who despite a tumultuous background has a heart that beats strong and true. How awesome is that! 🙂

With warmth,
Matt

November 15, 2013 at 1:08 pm #45370

Sarah
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Kylie-

Your Harvie-Lee is a beautiful little girl – and you’ve shared her so bravely.

I wish you peace and quiet and love during the stillness that can be so awful during the holidays. You’re not alone: we’re all with you.

I am so sorry for your loss.

November 21, 2013 at 11:20 am #45607

Al
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Kylie,

I am sorry for your loss. I want you to imagine your little girl at an age where she understands the concept of death. I’m wholly positive that she would want you to continue to live for her and for yourself. I hope this helps.

November 25, 2013 at 1:52 am #45792

Helen
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I’m so sorry for your loss. Life can plain out suck sometimes, and it seems that when we run into bad situations, some teach us things, yet sometimes things happen just because life sucks. Be glad that you have your other half, you two will get through this together, it just takes time. 🙂
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