Hi Steve

You’re right! I shouldn’t worry about the pace. It’s just hard not knowing where I stand exactly. I keep getting mixed signals and it’s driving me insane! haha I’m sorry that you’re feeling down about he whole online dating scene. I used to be there myself and I know that feeling too. I did get a lot of messages but not from the one’s I wanted. It was frustrating, so I just stopped logging in. Perhaps, that is what those other women did too-gave up? Maybe they are not intentionally ignoring you. I probably should just delete my account so other guys don’t feel the way you do about it. (just curious-what part of the world are you in?)

Yes, I’m just going to stop altogether and just be friendly. I don’t like feeling like this. It is the worst feeling ever.

Oh Canada? A beautiful country. Great skiing! I’m in the States myself 🙂

HI Steve, I was just reading through all these posts and you seem to dish out pretty good advice. First of, wondering how its going with your dating life. You haven’t been on in a while, so I am guessing you’re A) dating someone happily or B) taking some time off during the holidays.

I just wanted to say from a woman’s perspective – if you felt (or if you still feel) attracted to this woman (woman #1 that you felt so good with), and still have her in your mind…maybe shoot her a text (I think its been like 6 weeks?) and see how she is doing. Maybe she just needed some time to sort herself out.

I, personally, have broken up with some guys that I didn’t feel “right” about – and they either came back around, or asked me to help them understand why I was breaking it off…and it actually moved the relationship forward. I ended up dating one of them for a year and a half and we were really in “belly love” – except at the end – well it ended badly bc he had some issues with my 7 year old – and I started to feel bad in the relationship – so I ended it.

I say – if you haven’t – shoot that woman a text and see what happens. You never know..if she’s still in your head its for a reason.

Hi Steve…Ahh…well it sounds like you already tried my method 🙂 Yeah – honestly – her heart was probably stuck on some other dude.
yeah online dating sucks. I myself don’t do it. (I think we are around the same age I’m in my late 30s) I tried a couple of times for like a week in the last 4 years (in between my two long term boyfriends). I just wasn’t digging it. Too much work and too many lies. If I saw another 50 year old posing as a 40 year old I was going to scream.

I’ve become a little better at the dating thing (its daunting out of a divorce). So not entirely lost…but the problem is that all relationships start differently. I guess. For instance…my last two bf I’ve had after my divorce. Bang! it worked from the get go. This guy I’m going out with….eh…I’m not sure. And honestly – I think we are probably just feeling like “maybe its fizzling?” who knows…

Would you be so kind to read my post (confused about guy I’m dating) and give me some sound Steve from Canada advice?

I haven’t pulled the plug yet but it’s tick tick tocking.

Meet someone at the gym – or out at a jazz place – or at a 5K run – or at the grocery store. Trust me – we are out there. Waiting for a cool ass dude like you.

pss – if I told you where I am (which I can’t for anonymous reasons and just in case my dude is by chance reading this post) you’d be so jealous. Cold cold Canada! I lived there as a little girl.