Relationships can be soo amazing but also so confusing and hard, don’t worry your not alone in that so just incase you are don’t feel bad about having mixed emotions. Obviously I can only suggest what I feel could be right but opinion is purely that, personal opinion.
I was wondering and please don’t get offended but have you given your self enough time to grieve and emotionally deal with your divorce? It’s so hard ending a relationship, no matter who was to blame that you just want to jump back in because your use to not being alone (from personal experience, not saying that’s what is happening, I find the amount of time passed isn’t as important compared to the amount of issues I have had to face and deal with)

Although it’s not always easy I find honesty the best policy, maybe the girl you are seeing now you could express to her that your confused as your still thinking about another girl you had known previously and not sure were to go from here and then get some counselling about why this issue is coming up. It’s very common to want what you can’t have but it’s not very emotionally healthy to feel this. Maybe it’s because your scared to get hurt again and so wanting someone you can’t have makes it less real but still appealing, where as having it and actually living it is too real.
Or simply the current girl is great but you know is not suited for you?

you need to dig deeper and find out why? It won’t be easy but it will serve you in the future and by being honest with the current girl at least you know your not leading anyone on as she is an adult and can make a decision based on truth not deception.
Hope your problem can be eased and you find your answers.

Steve, whatever you decide, I wish you luck. Your story about the 2nd of the two women, the one you can’t stop thinking about, is eerily similar to a situation I was in last Spring. It flatlined when school let out (she has 2 pre-teen daughters). Enough on that, this is your thread, not mine.
Re the recent woman who is flaming you over texts, clearly she was hurt, or maybe she’s just a psycho. Most people can be great and a bit awful too, as you said about your ex. Maybe you are to her what “woman #2” is to you. Every who dates has to understand that they can hurt, or be hurt by, someone else. So don’t feel guilty – you saw as soon as you could that it wouldn’t work for you, and let her down fairly gently.
Peace.

Hi Steve and Tir!! You both gave me great advice! I guess the operative word, Steve, is that he “was” interested and now appears to be playing hard to get. haha Do guys do that?? I’m not one to chase and I have trouble being that direct in my love interests. So I guess I’ll have to wait it out. We are still friends but don’t see each other often as we are in different cities. (We both travel a lot) I want a relationship like Tir has. I want a relationship to come easy and stay easy.

Hi again Steve!

Thank you! I am a good person if I say so myself 🙂 As are you it seems. So why are we good people getting shafted? lol Actually, recently my love interest has been showing interest again but I’m still confused because he seems to be taking it extremely sloooooooooow. 🙂 Any more luck on your end?

Steve, you’re a thoughtful guy and I hope you receive a positive karmic reward soon. You mentioned cycles of messaging success – don’t look for patterns; it’s all random. From what I’ve learned of relationships, you have to hope for everything and count on nothing. I’m at a low point emotionally, unemployed and facing a lonely winter.
A woman from my church, on whom I had a crush a few years ago, contacted me last week and invited me on a nature hike. We had a great time, and she was flirting with me. Afterward, I helped move some furniture into her house and she hinted that we’d been on a date. I said I didn’t know whether it was or not.
I’m attracted to this one, but my heart is still with the woman from last spring and I can’t stand the thought of playing someone. My friend’s wife told me she’d done some snooping and the object of my desire is a player and a maneater. While some things she did are consistent with that, I don’t think you can reduce people to generic types. I got quite upset and argued to the contrary, and she backed down. I can see that if anything develops with Ms-Last-Spring I’ll be wary of introducing her to my friend’s wife.
I’ve always been able to count on friends shitting on me; if I rejected everyone who did that, I wouldn’t have any friends. Weird. We live in a community where people love to gossip, and my friend’s wife has suffered for that; I know she was looking out for me, so I’m letting it pass.