I haven’t had a loss like yours but that doesn’t mean I don’t feel some sadness for you. Perhaps these kinds of experiences make us more compassionate to others that experience the same loss. And we can always use more compassion in the world.
Patience? Don’t expect to come out of it quickly?
Anyway, hoping you can reconnect to life in the not too distant future.
Good luck Jessa

Dear Jessa,

Wish i could give you a hug. What a terrible loss for you. Those feelings you’re having, I would have them all too. I’m not sure I’d be able to dust myself off either.

I might start off by doing little things, like making a to-do list each morning and checking off the items as the day goes on. I might put things on it like get outside for a walk, prepare a nice dinner, call a friend, watch an inspiring movie. I’d probably try to go from item to item without thinking too much, just doing each task, like on autopilot.

When I have those moments when I can’t continue because I’m hurting too much, I think I would lean on someone who’s in my life, or make an appointment with a counselor, or go online to Tiny Buddha to let others know I’m hurting, or just sit by myself and have a good cry.

When I’m ready, I’d try to get back to that to-do list…

Lots of love to you.

lori