Dear Ladybug:

You are looking for advice on “how to approach him to actively show I’m wanting to grow with him”

1. No more arguing. You wrote earlier, “none of our arguments have gotten to breaking point”, but in your recent post you wrote, “We both became emotionally drained because of the arguments”. Being emotionally drained makes a person breakable. Have conversations, not arguments.

2. Talk with him about those past arguments and let him know that it is your resolve to not argue again regardless of the status of your relationship. Let him know that arguing is not an option for you.

3. Let a month, two months, six months go by without arguing, not even once. Then re-evaluate the relationship and your goals regarding the relationship and life in general.

anita