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  • #72910
    Kat
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    Hey CY,

    I would love to have an answer for you, but I’m not sure there is one exactly.

    I’m in a similar position as you, going for nomad because I feel like I’m searching for something out there somewhere. Home, adventure, both, or something like that.

    Something I’ve been thinking about recently is that it really is connection that I want. Like there’s a lost sense of self. Do you know that feeling when your heart is really pounding for something – like when you taker a risk for something you really want to do? That’s when I feel most whole, most like I know myself. It doesn’t need to be a rush, but it’s when I’m following my heart rather than that erratic head. Maybe it’s not that your friends are doing any better, you just want different things? Sometimes I find it really difficult measuring a low-budget vagabond type lifestyle against my friends doing PhDs and in fat-pay-cheque companies, or freelancing etc
    Don’t worry. Relax. Trust me, it’s tough but worth it. You’re not ‘supposed’ to be anywhere specific. I know that’s tough; I used to think that by now I’d be living the rock star lifestyle in a beautiful place by the ocean with a girlfriend who I just clicked together with. It’s a very lonely feeling when you’re not only comparing yourself to what others are/have, but also the you that you thought you should be…

    So, I can’t offer you an answer to bring a fantastic opportunity out of the sky, but I can offer you someone to talk with about it? Who knows, maybe we can work it out together! 🙂

    Hugs!!
    Kat.

    #72913
    Pamela
    Participant

    There’s a saying, “Wherever you go, there you are.” Sometimes (and I’m guilty of this as well, so I’m not judging you) it’s our thoughts that cause problems. It’s not that our friends are doing so much better, it’s the fact that we aren’t doing what we want to be doing. Not really. You see your friend essentially living “your dream,” which makes it harder to be happy for her. Well, she’s not living your dream, but neither are you. One book I’ve found that has REALLY helped me (two actually) change my thought processes and these changes have actually created a better life for me. One is “The Four Doors” by Richard Paul Evans, and the other is “The Compound Effect” by Darren Hardy. It’s not always our actions that create change. Change the way we think, and change our daily habits, and we can change our circumstances.

    I hope this helps 🙂

    #72940
    Sunset Limited
    Participant

    Hi Kat,

    Thanks for responding and sharing of your thoughts!
    Yeah, adventure it is! I guess at the same time, I was looking for adventure, excitement, something out of the norm.
    Well, home isn’t exactly what I’m looking for but I guess the closer word to it would be identity of ownself.
    I would like to think that the whole world is my native land, I could belong to here, and the next day ended up in somewhere else.
    I know it may sound creepy but I seriously don’t mind moving places as long as guaranteed attainment is in store.
    I guess I’m pretty much having this “wanderlust” spirit in heart, constantly trying to get on a trip to stir things around so that I could come back revived and recharged. But sadly the reality doesn’t permit me to have much of these. =(

    Hi Pamela,

    Thanks for responding and sharing of your thoughts!
    Well, I wouldn’t say she is living my dream. In fact, we are in a different industry, different field.
    What I was stressing earlier is that, she has kind of achieved more than I did and in return, she got the fat pay cheque and a brighter future undoubtedly.
    The financial stability is very important and it allows us to do so much.

    Xx,
    CY

    #72941
    Sunset Limited
    Participant

    Hi Kat,

    And yeah, I will definitely check out the 2 books mentioned. Tq for that!
    But at times, I was thinking…
    Despite how much push factors you get from the books, and how it managed to change your perceptions and thinking for a little while, you will still be pulling back by the negative vibes once all the effects have worn off.
    And question is, how are you going to maintain a positive mind at all times? It’s difficult.

    Xx,
    CY

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