Hi Letty,
What do you want?
Do you want to live like you are living now? Does it make you happy? I’m not being facetious here, I’m genuinely asking. For some people this is what they want. They like being non committed and for them, love with a partner is about a lot of ups and downs, changes and trials. If this is what you want, you have to try and move to a place of acceptance where you accept your relationship for what it is.
For others however, the majority I think, what they really want is stability. They want traditional monogamy, a marriage and children if possible.
It seems to me that if you fall into this later group, you have to ask yourself some very serious questions about whether this man is the right man for you. He has already shown that he is comfortable with lying to you and is unreliable. These characteristics are extremely detrimental in a marriage and a man with them is likely to make a bad father.
Sometimes we love someone but we cannot have them in our lives, because what they do to us is too damaging.
I send you love and support and I hope that you find a solution that pleases you.
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