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  • #42955
    Anonymous
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    The teen love and I were discussing the origins and traditions of Halloween (a North American cultural tradition).

    We guessed that our culture created the tradition of Halloween to ward off scary things, but realized that the things that really scare us are present in our thoughts until we face them (acknowledge) and let them go (accept). We also talked of real (instinctual, amygdala fight or flight) responses that we rely upon for our survival.

    Our conversation posed a question—what “really” scares you?

    #42995

    Good question. : ) What scares me is that the things that scare me usually don’t happen so I don’t know what to be afraid of!

    #43005
    Alexey Sunly
    Participant

    Fears are for people who have time for it. Success oriented people do not suffer from that curse 🙂

    #43040
    Bob
    Participant

    Greetings Midge ~~~
    Standing before my ‘Toastmasters’ Club’ after being given given a topic to speak on for at least two minutes and my mind and thoughts go completely blank. Not being able to recall someone’s name when I have not seen them in awhile and I look dumbfounded or lost. Being awakened in the wee hours of the morning to a noise outside of the window, go scurrying to the hallway light switch and its comforting glow. Up goes the switch and the bulb goes ‘pop’ and I am standing there in the dark. A brief telephone call that demands my immediate attention or alarm without giving me any details. Without any prior notice, I receive an email that tells me my job function is being sent overseas and my position with the company will end in three days. Seeing a member of my friend burst into tears, lose all their reasons for living and I cannot help them or give them comfort.
    I do agree that ‘fear’ itself is a motivator and it can be conquered. It is the things in life I cannot predict or prepare for that scares me. When someone is dire need or in an abusive relationship and they reject my help or concern and I am forced to walk away. Rejection of any kind at one time in my life scared me beyond my wildest dreams. I had to learn a tough lesson, people who want what you have will throw up a wall of rejection. So when I feel a touch of rejection enter my life, I stand firm shake the feeling off of me as if it were raindrops and know that I must being something right. I do not need their approval when I want to acheive another level of success.

    #43041
    Bob
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    Greetings Midge ~~~
    Standing before my ‘Toastmasters’ Club’ after being given an impromptu topic to speak on for at least two minutes and my mind and thoughts go completely blank. Not being able to recall someone’s name when I have not seen them in awhile and I look dumbfounded or lost. Being awakened in the wee hours of the morning to a noise outside of the window, go scurrying to the hallway light switch and its comforting glow. Up goes the switch and the bulb goes ‘pop’ and I am standing there in the dark. A brief telephone call that demands my immediate attention or alarm without giving me any details. Without any prior notice, I receive an email that tells me my job function is being sent overseas and my position with the company will end in three days. Seeing a member of my family or a dear friend burst into tears, lose all their reasons for living and I cannot help them or give them comfort.
    I do agree that ‘fear’ itself is a motivator and it can be conquered. It is the things in life I cannot predict or prepare for that scares me. When someone is dire need or in an abusive relationship and they reject my help or concern and I am forced to walk away. Rejection of any kind at one time in my life scared me beyond my wildest dreams. I had to learn a tough lesson, people who want what you have will throw up a wall of rejection. So when I feel a touch of rejection enter my life, I stand firm shake the feeling off of me as if it were raindrops and know that I must being something right. I do not need their approval when I want to acheive another level of success.

    • This reply was modified 11 years, 2 months ago by Bob.
    #50465
    Anonymous
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    Hi, Bob,

    I think fear serves a natural function that helps us to survive and succeed. It’s when it turns into worry, anxiety, etc. that it begins to negatively impact our lives. I’m so glad to read your take on rejection. I too have developed the sense that rejection is really about the other person. In fact, the more I experience rejection, the less I concern myself with others’ approval.

    #50466
    Anonymous
    Inactive

    Yes, we tend to imagine much worse than what is real. Why is that?

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