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  • #96355
    Anonymous
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    Dear maggie mac:

    I think this guy is immature. He is using pick up lines on you, making statements that are exaggerated, unbelievable, and not honest or authentic. His behavior does not indicate this is an honest, mature, wise man.

    Good observations on your part. I hope your next coffee date, if you are interested in dating, will be with an honest, no bs, mature man. Let this experience serve you with a clear example of who to NOT date.

    I hope you post again.

    anita

    #96390
    maggie mac
    Participant

    Anita,
    Thank you for your wise observation. It is how I am thinking and have been from the start but just needed clarification. I think what made it so unbelievable that he would be running lines on me is that he is old enough to know better! Again, I appreciate your time.

    #96395
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear maggie mac:

    You are welcome. I want to analyze this guy’s behavior a little more as an exercise for myself and maybe you would like to follow my analysis? If so here it is as I type it:

    You met him once for coffee, once for a few minutes by your house and you talked on the phone. I will type what he said and did and in parentheses- what his possible, not exact, but possible or probable messages are, what he is indirectly saying to you:

    He said he is working and has only a few minutes free (I am a busy, important working man and I am taking the time for you)

    He led you to the table and placed the coffee and water for you on the table: he chose the table and the location of your drinks (I know better than you what is good for you. You are helpless, not capable of taking care of yourself. and I can take care of you!)

    Some people commented on his car (I am supposing it is an expensive car: I am an important, rich guy living a glamorous life)

    He said you make his car and himself look good (and you can be part of my glamorous life!)

    He told you how much he likes your looks, everything about your face, your height (He is ready to make the purchase to fit his car and his glamorously looking life… the purchase of you to fit in his car)

    He told you he wants your photo so to put it on his phone (You will be safe with me forever, no more worries for you, you can rest now. You will be secure and protected in my phone and in my life)

    He told you his last girlfriend was a gold digger (I am rich!)

    He told you how hard it was to meet a good, honest person with a good heart but how he could tell I had a good heart. (And you are different than she was so you are not going to make me spend much money on you… you don’t want to look like a gold digger, do you?)

    He worked out and was in good shape and had a nice face and seemed nice and decent. (I too look good in my own car and I look… look so nice and decent)

    he started telling me that he was picky (You are so lucky to be picked by picky me!)

    He also said he had only been with “intimate” with 3 women in his life. (indeed you are lucky if I get intimate with you!)

    But he also told me that women “hit” on him quite a bit. (And you have competition, so better take advantage that I only want to be intimate with you!)

    He tells me he wants to get to know me and to know me the rest of his life. (Again, you are safe and secure in my phone and in my life forever more… happily-ever-after is here for you!)

    He wants to kiss all the time and to touch me on my hair, face and sometimes will take my hand and place it on his face. (Aren’t you lucky that even though I am rarely intimate with women, I have chosen you out of all the women who hit on me…?)

    He told me he was 62 (I am younger, and rich and picky and etc…)

    Conclusion: You wrote in your last post that he is “old enough to know better” – I am thinking he already knows better, that is he knows that the messages above have worked to his benefit in the past and still, can work. This is what he knows and there still are women- of any age- with whom this will work.

    anita

    #96400
    Nan
    Participant

    I hate to be cynical, but my gut is telling me he is a possible con man. Please be careful! They sweep you off your feet, then control and break you, til you have given him your money and your self-esteem. Please be careful and trust your gut. I have seen this rapid attachment and charm become a serious problem that can make your future disastrous. Something in your intuition is messaging you. Be attentive and be aware. I am also mid-60’s this seems somewhat odd in my book, I would have red flags springing up til I knew and background checked him. Anita’s post above is absolutely accurate on the hidden messages he is sending.

    #96597
    maggie mac
    Participant

    WOW, Anita! Great analysis of these conversations. And of course it is true for why else would anyone do all of this? The next time he called me to tell me he couldn’t wait to see me I told him I couldn’t see him anymore. I just used the excuse that I just wasn’t ready as I didn’t want to get into the whole thing with his bizarre behavior.
    He seemed disappointed and told me that if I ever changed my mind to let him know.
    Nan, you are right about going with my gut and I am glad I did. Thanks to both of you for your attention and interest in my topic. It really helped!! I loved the analysis and the way you were able to put all that together, Anita. It’s a gift.

    #96606
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear maggie mac:

    You are welcome and I appreciate your… appreciation of my analysis. Anytime!

    Do you plan on dating, now that you had a taste of the dating world…?

    anita

    #96680
    maggie mac
    Participant

    Anita,
    I do want to find a person to be in a close relationship with. I am not looking forward to anything else like this, though! I feel like I would like to be close to someone I already know in some way. I really don’t think I could trust anyone that I just met. Not sure why but it’s how I feel.

    #96682
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear maggie mac:

    I understand. Of course you don’t want to get close with someone like the man we talked about. But that was a learning experience, learning what you don’t want…

    so you have someone you already know in mind? Please feel comfortable to not answer my question. There is no requirement that you answer any question here. Only if you are interested in doing so. Otherwise, please do post about anything you would like!

    anita

    #96730
    maggie mac
    Participant

    Yes, there is someone I know from school that is getting a divorce and I have liked him a long time. He helped me to get my yard landscaped. He seemed to like me too. I hope I get to know him better. Thanks for the invitation. You have been a big help.

    #96749
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear maggie mac:

    You are welcome and I hope a good, loving relationship develops between you and your soon to be available friend! Please do post anytime you want to communicate. I will respond when you do.

    Take good care of yourself

    anita

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