Dear deejacy2:

If she wants to spend time with you, has a home, but wouldn’t tell you where it is, that means she doesn’t want you to visit her. In that case ask Why? And expect an honest answer.

But as far as the young woman who was your friend, your “Bestie,” she is no longer your friend or your Bestie. I know that because she said “Never”- she said so. When a person says “No” or “Never” to contact with you, you have to respect it and let go, have no contact with her.

As hurtful as it is for you, you can’t force a friendship to start or to continue. When a person says NO, you respect that and not chase and apply pressure. Just as when you say NO to someone else, the other person should respect your NO and not pressure you.

Take good care of you:

anita

Dear deejacy2:

I understand your distress, I believe. I spent lots and lots… and lots of my life being distressed. And for nothing, no good coming out of it. So minimize your distress, delete or not delete her from (social media), whatever will reduce your distress. Glad you have another friend, the one who gave you advice. And do post here anytime.

anita

You are very welcome, deejacy2, and thank you for your appreciation. Post anytime.
anita