Dear DP:

I understand your strong conviction regarding monogamy. I didn’t doubt that conviction before. What I have been trying to do is figure out your motivation regarding entertaining the … sort of need to have an experience with another woman, to match your girlfriend’s experience during the breakup. I am trying to figure out why you feel inadequate not having such experience. I haven’t figure it out.

anita

Dear DP:

Here is a possibility, let me know what you think of it: you live with your mother while your father disappears for long periods of time, having affairs with other women. Your mother is suffering. You feel great empathy for her. Being a good boy is very important to you: unlike your father, you are going to be there for your mother, you will help her.

But being exposed to her suffering, you naturally long for a happy-go-lucky living, being free of suffering. And so, secretly you long to live like your father, to be out and about, have a happier life, elsewhere.

I wonder if you felt angry at your mother, at times, for… trapping you in her misery…?

anita