Hi anita,

I wanted to update you on the situation. Since I last wrote that I told my friend no and he cut off the friendship from me and I was really very sad.

Now he called me again and begged me to reconsider. Said he would keep me happy always and that he has no one else. He says he doesn’t have the strength to be alone and since we both always used to share our problems and support each other he is unable to cope.

I am really confused. As a friend I do want to help him and support him. I know how it feels to be hurting and alone. At the same time I am scared what if I, in my moment of weakness, and trying to rescue him develop any feelings or try to support him and get confused again?

What would be your advice? I really really really don’t want to lose our friendship. We both have been through a lot together and he has helped me a lot too.

This issue has been causing a strain in my relationship as I have started comparing again and really feel pulled between things.

I don’t want to be miserable again

littlered

Hi anita,

That is what I want – to go back to being best friends and just that. Not him hurting, not me confused. I understand it might be tough for him, but I wish it will be alright and we don’t lose our friendship and good bond that we have.

Guess I am again losing sight of my own self.

Will discuss again with him and update you.

Thanks for being patient with me and supporting me during this difficult phase.

littlered