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    Littlered
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    Hi anita,

    yes I completely agree with you, the feeling of not worthy is not gone yet. It has manifested in many other areas too. But I came to know that this issue has it too. As I identify these, it becomes easier to work on them as if I got a diagnosis. 

    The words still are there, but the strange feeling they used to bring up in me are quite mild now. It is as if they are having their power taken away. Now I know it is not what they did or said but how I am continuing to let it inside me and trigger me.

    the core issue as you rightly pointed out is that of self worth and that is a path I have already started walking. You might recollect recommending CBT exercises which have started to help me immensely. I intend to continue on those lines. 

    I am reminded through this thread yet again that I have self worth issues which is the key issue, rest are manifested versions of it.

    thank you once again for your support

    Littlered

     

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    Anonymous
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    Dear Littlered:

    You are very welcome.

    You wrote: “it is not what they did or said but how I am continuing to let it inside me and trigger me”- I believe it is both: it is about what the man said and it is about it triggering the I-am-not-worthy core belief. The words were offensive- your reaction is understandable. The intensity of the reaction over five years is about the core belief being there, breathing life into these words.

    In my experience, it takes a whole lot of patience with the process of changing this kind of core beliefs. You are definitely on the path of changing yours. Yes, I remember you  liking the CBT concept and exercises. To put it very simply, the thought in the core belief that you are not worthy is incorrect. Corrected belief/ thought: you are worthy.

    Now, if only it was that simple to change a core belief!

    anita

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