A couple pieces of advice from a person who has been through this same thing before:

1. Expect it to take a while. Prepare to be patient during the process. It could be a while (up to a few years!) before you meet an actual “girlfriend” if what you desire is an intimate, exclusive relationship of like-minded souls. You may have to go through a few false starts, and then pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again, but I have a feeling you are up to this challenge! (And remember, NOTHING WORTH HAVING comes fast, or easy:)

2. When you actually approach a woman, be yourself…your most positive, lighthearted, well-mannered, self. These are the qualities that make strangers – particularly women – want to get to know a person better. You might introduce yourself to her by making a funny, light-hearted remark about something going on in the room, or the event happening wherever you are. Then genuinely listen to her response. If it’s funny, then laugh or smile! When it’s your turn to talk again, you might give her a genuine compliment about something that made you notice her; maybe something like “I came over b/c I don’t see anyone else in the whole place wearing purple except you…I really like that jacket.” Or, if she has an interesting necklace or scarf on, try to think of something to say, or a question to ask, about it (“that scarf looks very fashionable…is that a 70’s vibe I’m sensing?) or just “that’s an interesting necklace,” which is enough to maybe get HER telling you all about why and where she bought it, while you show what a great listener you are 🙂

3. Remember that periods of famine are what make the feast more wholesome and enjoyable! Use this dry period to better yourself for the special woman you’re eventually going to hold in your arms! Try not to let loneliness get you down. Accept where you are, accept the fact that a long journey is made up of one small step at a time.

4. Stay positive…women cannot resist a man with a positive outlook and a generous attitude.

• This reply was modified 9 years, 3 months ago by Maradoll.