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January 31, 2016 at 7:32 pm #94545
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GuestDear phighphear:
To find joy again, I say you still will need what you always need: people. But unlike the people at work and your unavailable family members I suggest to aim at people who are and will be honest with you, trustworthy and available to attend to you.
One way to figure if a person deserves your trust is to figure his or her possible motivations to be with you and pay attention to their behavior in regard to possible motivations. If these are people at work that aim at the same promotion you aim at, then this is a competitive situation and their motivation is likely: to be promoted and so, be aware and cautious.
Notice other people, dates; if a woman insists you take her to expensive places and asks you to buy her things, then her motivation is… just that. Pay attention and carefully choose.
Blind trust is not wise.
What do you think?
anita
February 1, 2016 at 3:36 pm #94617Al
Participantphightphear,
I am sorry for your suffering.
It is indeed sorrowful to experience events which fracture our trust and faith in one another; in humanity. These gestures are certainly hard to absorb. However, find solace and satisfaction in knowing that you did not take part in reciprocating these chaotic acts. This conveys that you have a good heart and innately wish for the happiness and well being of everyone, and even to those whom cause you harm. Please recognize this beautiful trait within yourself.
My friend, self-peace and happiness are things that must constantly be worked on. However, they become easier to instinctively and earnestly exhibit by understanding certain truths. Recognizing that we all suffer similarly helps bring about a sense of ‘togetherness’. Also, perceiving that we are all uniquely mentally conditioned from birth helps us accept eachothers’ faults in a non-personal way. In your case, many coworkers have used and stepped over you, however, by recalling that these individuals are only doing what society (and/or other factors) have conditioned them to do will assist in maintaining your peace of mind. Sometimes, the vigorous pace of society can make us forget the meaningful and make us abandon our humanity. During such times, tap into your (once more) innately well-wishing heart and reground yourself. Continuously reinforce your life-affirming beliefs that this existence is worth living so that all difficult events can be dealt with more efficiently. This should also assist in reclaiming your happiness. Now knowing that we all suffer, obtain the yearning to want all beings to be free of it so we may all share a blissful existence. Maintaining a sincere desire to want good for all will produce all the necessary positive mental and physical actions to circumstantiate your happiness.
I hope this helps and please forgive any grammatical errors.
Al
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