Senorita,

I think that when you are honest, even if the truth hurts a little, it will build more trust overall. I am a huge people pleaser and many times in my life I have tried to hide the truth to keep from hurting people. In the end a lie or dishonesty (even for a “good reason) always hurts them more and damages that trust, sometimes beyond repair. If you guys are going to start a marriage and future life together, be as open and honest as you can, not just for him, but you too! You will feel better.

Start an open channel of communication that continues the span of your relationship.

You are loved.

<3 Kori

Dear senorita:
I don’t think it is necessary to tell him AGAIN that you were not a virgin when you met him. You already told him once and he chose to not believe it. If you told him that once in a serious way, not in a laughing, making a joke kind a way and he took it as a joke, it may mean he prefers to think of you as a virgin, feeling better that you are in the face of you telling him otherwise.

He prefers to believe you were a virgin. If you can handle it, let it be.

I am not absolutely sure of my advice. There may be other elements to consider, but that is my feel for it.

Oh, and about confessing- are you going to tell him all your past sins, real or imagined? Why? If you believe you and him have what it takes to make a good, healthy relationship, confessing of irrelevant things- like your virginity and many other details- is not necessary and can lead to unecessary complications. Keep it simple.
anita