I have been with a man for 7 years. We have had a up and down relationship for better part of it. I was trying to get sober, I was 25 when I met him he was 38. He stayed by my side after my second DWI and said he would unconditionally love me. I understand this is codependency now. I was in and out of AA for 5 years, celebrating a year twice and relapsing. The whole time I wanted to get engaged and make a commitment with him but he used my sobriety as an excuse not to marry me yet. He didnt trust me due to wreckage of my alcholic past. I am sober a year now, we broke up in February because i was sick of the fighting and him living with his mom and not committing to an apartment or engagement. I felt like it was me the whole time like I wasnt good enough. I reconnected with an old bf who is a great guy and we dated past 3 months, well my ex was devastated and SWORE we would get engaged, lets try this again, he realized he was in a depression and wasnt taking care of himself and now he is in therapy and going to alanon. He has since moved into nyc and has his own place.
I am so confused. I LOVE him a lot and always wanted it to work, but am afraid this is the boy that cried wolf. I dont want to pass up a great guy who WANTS to get married and move in together. But after 7 years my heart is still with my other bf. I want to go back and try the relationship, now I am sober and living a great life, but unsure of what to do. Any suggestions?

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