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  • May 21, 2016 at 12:57 pm #105271
    sandstorm
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    hey chase i am with your friends “If you really care about each other, you will find a way to be together.”
    its not like one of you cheated, or not compatible , was in unhealthy relationship . so there is no strong reason to end it .
    only problem you are facing is long distance m i right . people put so much effort to make it work . you can visit him alternate weekend . same he can . but question is are you willing to put so much effort to make it work. is he willing to put effort to make it work .
    Honestly speaking you guys are giving up not for strong reason . r u willing to trust him .
    well i was you i would try my best to make it work . i know my friends and relative who were in 5-6 years of long distance relationship .
    so i would suggest to communicate with you special one and think about it . ….
    giving up is an easy option ,making it work is difficult one .
    you will never have perfect cookie cut out condition . i believe you should adapt the situation .

    i wrote this way because you willing to listen ok (Hard truths are appreciated – do not hesitate to be a straight shooter with any advice you have! I will not be offended.)

    May 21, 2016 at 7:06 pm #105279
    TriangleSun
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    I’m probably going to tell you something you’re not going to like. Don’t put your career in front of your personal life but still make it a priority of some sort. I too spent my 20s building a career. It was my priority and I enjoyed it so much I missed out on a lot in my personal life. I’m in my very early 30s now and have all the things that I wanted to have and nothing I actually need. If I could travel back in time and talk to my younger self I’d tell him to just be free of expectations or having the need to reach some level of acceptance. Because the truth is I’d have been where I am now anyway maybe 6 or 7 years later, but I’d be happier knowing I didn’t miss out on anything in the process. So if you feel like doing a stunt in the name of love – do it. Seriously. If you have your head screwed onto your shoulders the right way then your career ain’t going anywhere.

    May 21, 2016 at 7:40 pm #105282
    Anonymous
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    Dear Chase:

    You and the man you fell in love with have an important value in common: both of you most highly value your education and professional career. You now value your relationship with him highly as well. So now, you have two values: a professional career and the relationship with this man.

    If I was you, I would talk with him about these two values and check with him: does he value this relationship as much as you? Is he struggling too? What are his thoughts?

    If he is certain he wants to move on from the relationship with you, that would give you a closure, a closing of the door. If not, well… take it from there.

    Please post again, especially if you have this conversation/s with him.

    anita

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