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  • October 1, 2021 at 12:02 pm #386893
    Anonymous
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    Dear Grace:

    “We’ve talked about her leaving once like 2 weeks ago. She said she felt bad or that it might bother me but she didn’t want to bring it up which shows me she knows it’s kinda crappy of her to leave every single weekend… So I’m not sure how to revisit this conversation, I don’t want her to think I’m jealous or that I need her here 100%..“-

    -in order to advise you on how to revisit the conversation you had with your friend two weeks ago, can you elaborate in detail on that conversation: what did you say, what did she say, what did you then say, etc.?

    anita

    October 1, 2021 at 6:53 pm #386946
    Grace
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    Yeah for sure! So I brought it up and said something along the lines of ” hey so are you ever going to stay a weekend here?” and she said something like “ok yeah I feel bad about leaving but I didn’t want to bring it up”. and we talked it out a little and I made sure to emphasize that I understood that it is an awkward position for her to be in and I get it but that it’d be nice to hang out on the weekends. She said that when he comes here for the weekend she doesn’t have to stay over there and that we could hang more but like whenever we make plans when he’s here its like really short. It’ll be like we plan to go to a fall festival and we could only be there for like an hour because they made plans to get lunch. so I said maybe like doing stuff for more than a hour lol? that’s basically the conversation we had a while ago..

    October 1, 2021 at 8:23 pm #386947
    Anonymous
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    Dear Grace:

    I appreciate the information and will reply to you when I am back to the computer, in about 10 hours from now.

    anita

    October 2, 2021 at 10:05 am #386962
    Anonymous
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    Dear Grace:

    Reads to me like there is nothing you can or should do about your roommate spending weekends with her boyfriend instead of with you. I understand your loss, being that she is your only close friend in Pennsylvania. But she has the right to spend her weekends with her boyfriend, just as you would have this right if you had a boyfriend. Therefore, I suggest that you don’t revisit the topic with her  and accept best you  can that this is how things are.

    As far as your loneliness, you asked for tips about making friends in college. If you tell me how you tried so far to make friends, what worked and what didn’t work (and how you made friends with your roommate), maybe I will be able to think of something.

    anita

    October 13, 2021 at 8:10 pm #387331
    Anonymous
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    How are you, Grace?

    anita

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