Hi there, i believe it must be quite perturbing for you right now in this state of confusion – Consider this:

Have you told him that you would like to spend one whole day together? Find a common holiday or take a day off to surprise him or something – maybe plan a romantic honeymoony type day together – try cooking together, bathe, watch a movie, lol you get my drift, right?

I know you are afraid to sound too demanding but there is nothing wrong with occasionally asking to spend more quality time with your partner. However, it should be done in a way that isnt accusing or hurtful or sarcastic.

You guys are really lucky that you get to see eachother atleast for some time – there are so many people in long-distance who see their other halves every 2-3 months or more for just a day or two. I see my boyfriend every 3 months for just 2-3 days (not even the whole day) – you gotta appreciate that the situation could have actually been much harder. That is why dont let the lack of communication and the feeling that you are suppressing your needs ruin something so wonderful.

Sassypants, read fifty shades of Grey for ideas – try some kinky stuff – who exactly attacks the other usually? Think about this and you will realize why you are thinking of the past. You arent actually being involved enough and that is a sign you need to talk about what you need to be more into it. Not a bad thing but actually healthy to discuss it respectfully.

Good sex isnt about endowment (unless there is a major um..lack of it medically, yes guys relax! :P) but rather about connection, technique etc. – i feel that somehow you are holding back from sharing your requirements from him because you feel you would come across as too demanding.

Now for your second question, love is a very vague thing and even i sometimes feel like its a pile of crock – but sometimes i feel it like crazy – the intensity of your emotions would vary according to your mood and the state of the environment as well. My boyfriend says the same thing – he loves me differently at different times of the day 😛

However, saying you love someone is not as important as actually loving them. In that sense, acting on your love is a choice – so many people claim they love someone but do they actually back it up with care, commitment and affection?

Give yourself time – you arent a silly teenager anymore, so relax – fireworks, sparks are just those over-rated things from the movies. You dont grow old with people whom you have a relationship that resembles “Love the way you lie” music video – yes on a basic level, drama and spice appeals to chicks like you and me but its not really all about that, is it? He sounds like a really sweet guy and i am happy for you.

Are you happy with him? – most important question and only you will know 🙂