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  • September 27, 2013 at 10:52 am #42875
    John
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    Yup, just another fantasy full of “maybes”.

    You asked for him to send you your stuff. If he agrees, he’ll send them back.

    You asked if if there was a possibility to reconcile. He said no. He won’t be back.

    You ask directly. He responds directly.

    You don’t ask directly. You wonder “Maybe…”

    Which is fine. Sometimes we all do that.

    But sometimes, when there’s no direct question or no direct response and to be able to say yourself, “Maybe” and not dwell on it and not to take your mind away into fantasy, away from the present, away from yourself, away from other opportunities and possibilities, and away from all the other “maybes” to every other question that comes up, that’s happiness and freedom! 🙂

    September 27, 2013 at 11:41 am #42876
    Sapnap3
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    John,

    I see what you are saying but I have always asked direct questions. He did get back to me and simply said “I will send them back to you”.

    It did a hurt a little but difference now is that I can observe my sadness and know where its coming from. Its never been about him or anyone else. This is all within me. I am trapped in the “victim triangle”.

    By asking for my things back, i am cutting the last threads that attach me to him. I am not under any illusion to think that this will “cure” me of all the pain and longing i feel for him but it is another little step towards getting there…one day.

    Namaste
    Sapna

    September 27, 2013 at 12:13 pm #42879
    John
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    You asked directly. You got a response. You just wanted your stuff back. You’ll get your stuff back.

    Then there is no maybe. No need for fantasy.

    Just you taking care of yourself and doing the things you enjoy doing for you. Things that keep you in the here and now. Things that are directly in front of you. That are real. That are tangible.

    There’s a wound and it will take time to heal. Fantasy is just salt.

    A trip to Ireland, a good book, some fun music, an evening out, a movie, cooking a delicious meal, meditation, exercise, work, play, family, and friends, those are the wound’s sutures.

    This too shall pass. 🙂

    September 27, 2013 at 12:34 pm #42880
    Sapnap3
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    I am going to get that tattooed! haha 🙂

    Thank you John. This too shall pass like everything else in life…

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